Dear Sasa
25 4 2021
Sasa，今天和你深入交談，深深感受到你的承受的壓力之大，你的成長經歷之不容易，你面對的挑戰之艱鉅，但你都一一面對，克服無數的困難，孩子可以讀到正常學校，殊不容易，而且可以跟的上，可以想像你的付出，你對孩子和先生的愛，是多麼的大。
今天，當你說出來這些壓力和困難，你就會更加接納這些，更加接納孩子和先生。
我有治療和support自閉症家庭一些經驗，稍後可以和你分享。
既然上天要給你這樣的挑戰，你就安然和接受，勇敢的面對！
現在，最重要的是你自己可以成為自己的內在父母，安撫和療愈受傷的內在小孩，她可以生活中安頓、安穩、堅強和溫柔的狀態，你就會發揮的更好，你就更有能力面對挑戰。
你從小失去了母親，爸爸獨立撫養三個孩子成人，他真的好偉大，你有爸爸的基因，好多美麗的特質，寫出來，每天和自己說：I love you, you have worked so hard for the family
自閉症的朋友對於壓力很敏感，需要很大的空間，自我空間和穩定的comfortzone，所以，你的情緒，情感變化，都會trigger他們的心情。
情緒管理，心理質素，對你來說，是非常重要的良藥，令自己身心安頓，孩子和家人也會極大的收益。
你已經做的很好，積極學習，不停地修行，這次課程，認識你，也是大家的福氣，你又多了很多朋友，大家互相支持。
明天，我會傳些我們談到的課題，供你參考和繼續學習。
Good night
Here is a set of information you can study at your convenience.
About autism and Asperger syndrome:
My working experiences and reflections on autism:
如何與亞氏保加症 （自閉症）家人相處？
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K7a3xm9fqz0
The video is about meltdown of autism at any age and from her personal experience.
Everyone is different, how to heal autism themselves in the long run?
Being aware is the first thing to find we have choice and we can manage if we are so aware of it:
This video made me tearful:
I am so touched by her honesty to herself, acceptance of self and self confidence at face her autistic meltdown and how to prevent:
She said: Don't beat yourself up, you are perfect and you didn't cease this and I think you are great.
What Is An Autistic Meltdown?
This lady expresses what meltdown is and the causes behind. You can see that so many factors, internal and external all affect their emotion crash and last rather a period of time.
What is tantrum and what is sensory autism meltdown and how to prevent it:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kkZPbGXD66Y
The parents attitude and behavior in front of autistic children is crucial for the autism to grown up
I am sure you have done so well and just hope to be more resourceful and resilient
About the importance to praise ourselves
學習讚美別人，就是活出自己
每個人都想被認同，被重視，被看到，孩子常常被真誠的讚美，就會有被愛的感覺，就會更有自信，自愛和美麗的心去欣賞別人，讚美別人。更加會感恩身邊的事物。減少受害者的感覺。
https://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2018/09/blog-post_8.html
活出最棒的自己
http://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2017/09/blog-post_97.html
About how to use writing therapy to build self esteem, self valued mindset ( inner parents and inner child development process)
Donna 寫給自己的信 28 3 2021
https://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2021/03/my-dear-inner-child-letter-writing.html
Donna 写给婆婆的信 ， 如何 疗愈童年阴影，认同自己，同时，多角度看问题
写给儿子的信， 爸爸妈妈的信...
https://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2021/04/blog-post_4.html
我的寫信療愈集 - 建構自己內在父母
为什么建构内在父母那么重要？self esteem process， 爱的力量， 不外求，就在身边，在心里
（ 带大我们的是婆婆，父母长期不再身边）
About how to deal with emotion at old age， esp. dementia and depression
《爸爸可否不要老》？
https://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2021/04/the-father.html
很多也是我面对的挑战，你也可以对我了解多一些，可以给你多些资源和启发，力量！
如何掌控自己的情緒
https://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2021/01/blog-post_22.html
How to read children mind and why parents relationship is the key to let our children feeling to be loved
Also reminds me to build up an inner home for self to rest, to heal and to charge is crucial for my health and for happiness
四个善解人意的男孩子
https://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2021/04/blog-post_36.html
How to release emotion and make self at peace
同理心，一生的修行
情绪急救，关键先做好自己
繼續回顧昨天的對話：
從我們的深度談話，我感覺到一下幾點，都是你的內外在資源，你已經在运用了。
为了运用的更好，讓內心更強大，更有彈性，更溫柔，更有韌力和慈悲，你可以常常想想身边有什么美丽的、爱的、温柔的东西，拥抱你，不会令你感到孤单和焦虑：
我想到：
學校如此愛心的老师和校長，他們對自閉症的方法，令人敬佩不已，也是朗朗的福氣，对你们极大的支持，是你们的blessing。
先生願意去做測試，勇敢的面對自己，接受自己，這是非常非常難得的，大部分男士是難以接受自己有自閉症，有Asperger狀態的。這令你也很釋懷，感恩，大家明白自己多一些，就有多一些的共同語言，共同理念，雖然比你expected還有距離，但你比很多家人都好很多了，你讀下以下我的文章，我的工作所得出的一些感受和啟發：
你极大的包容心和愛心，和孩子的共處得到的成長經驗，都是你的內在資源啊，所以，你把這些都很好記載起來，放在心裡，你的內在父母就在慢慢建構出來！你就不會容易感到無助、孤單和無力。
闭上眼睛，感受下，身邊有很多愛啊，還有我對你的關注和共鳴...支持和同理...
https://www.facebook.com/donnawinter2000/posts/10219444738774618
共勉
Donna
Reference:
About Purple Ella
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K7a3xm9fqz0
What Is An Autistic Meltdown?
What is an autistic meltdown? In this video I talk about
- The difference between an autistic meltdown and a tantrum.
- What causes autistic meltdowns.
- What do autistic meltdowns look like.
- How to prevent meltdowns.
-What to do when someone is in meltdown.
-What to do when you are in meltdown.
Related topics:
Do you have sensory overload - https://youtu.be/5OMIkp70c0E
Autism and sensory processing - https://youtu.be/QMpyDF0Pvf8
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A little bit about me:
Hi I'm Purple Ella and my family is an autism family with three out of five of us on the autistic spectrum. I also have a connective tissue disorder (hypermobile Ehlers-danlos syndrome). So life can be a challenge but also a lot of fun.
Helpful links
The National Autistic Society - http://autism.org.uk
Hypermobility Syndromes Association - http://hypermobility.org
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Thanks to my son who gave me lots of ideas and logs of insration how to deal with special need and depression people:
B, you give me lots of inspiration, reminders and new ideas in dealing with emotions, special needed people, like autism ... your personal development is also very promising for us to be proud of. I was so moved , happy when I heard you said when you were aware of yourself better, deeper, you suddenly opened up your horizon and your inner territories , your inner map, and you become more resourceful , you found you have choices and more clear of your self development direction.
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