Friday, July 3, 2020

About Donna Wong

人性化,個人化的身心輔導
















Certified Hypnotherapist Trainer 
Clinical Hypnotherapist 
Dream Therapist
Narrative Therapist
Movie Therapist
Blogger

 博客
夢境治療師
臨床催眠治療師
註冊催眠師培訓導師
家庭排列敘事及電影治療師
DREAM CREATORS WORKSHOP 
創夢者工作室創辦人

My mission is to empower self healing, self coaching spirit towards a greater awareness of making choices for happiness, self development and wholeness.


通過催眠治療、夢境、敘事、電影、家庭治療、 NLP 等正面思維方法,處理睡眠失調,情緒問題,體重管理, 痛症管理,家庭關係,生涯規劃,達至舒心減壓, 戒除習慣,轉化情緒,潛能發揮, 夢想實現。 

特點

Features


人性化,個人化,啟動自我療癒的潛能
Human, individualization, empowerment of self-healing, self-coaching to develop potentiality 

Donna擅長用傾談方式,心靈對話,通過生命故事,催眠,冥想,解夢,敘事,隱喻,電影治療等 一系列人性化,個人化的方法,啟動自我療癒的潛能。她相信,每位朋友,都可成為自己的解夢師,心理醫生,生命教練!


With warm, friendly hypnotherapy conversation, dream therapy and narrative therapy, NLP, clients will find more inner power, become more creative, courageous, happier  inside out.

服務

Services

個人服務

  • 身心症狀:改善失眠,夢境失調,疏解家庭,婚姻,情緒困擾
  • 情緒和健康管理:長期痛症,惡習戒除,體重,糖尿,腦退化及慢性病管理
  • 潛能開拓:兒童天賦,個人潛能探索,生涯規劃,職業輔導
  • 內在表達和溝通能力訓練:心理質素,父母和孩子的溝通,情緒管理提升

Private sections, individual courses on
Sleep disorder, emotion management, family relationship and weight,diabetes and other chronic disease management.


團體培訓,工作坊,課程
Group/corporation training, workshops and courses. 


追夢的小女孩 speech 5 10 2017

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1qBzxloURLk

無限可能性在夢中

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kma8Y7agga8&t=42s


For more information

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http://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/p/about.html

關於Donna的創夢者工作室和DreamTeam

http://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/p/dreamteam.html


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Tuesday, June 2, 2020

父母慣性貶低控制 埋情緒病伏線

父母慣性貶低控制 埋情緒病伏線


【明報專訊】童年陰影對我們的影響深遠。比較明顯的「童年陰影」可以是來自身體,甚至性侵犯;但更常見的,是父母慣性的批評、貶低、控制,或者是有意或無意的忽略、情感上的要脅,又或是父母之間不和,使到還是小孩的我們承受著大人之間的情緒。

童年是建立信任、自立、自律、自我發展和身分認同的時候。如果童年時遭父母不斷批評、控制,我們便會潛意識地自覺得一無是處,什麼也做不好。情感上被忽略的小孩會覺得自己不值得被愛,容易產生自卑、倔強、孤獨的個性。小孩子對父母之間的問題和對父母的情緒亦十分敏感,會長遠地影響他們對親密關係的觀念,例如害怕建立親密關係、不能信任親密關係而害怕被丟棄等等。

這些童年陰影會留下烙印,影響我們對自己、對別人和對世界的觀感。這些都會成為情緒病的伏線。當我們自卑,我們可能會強迫自己付出加倍努力。但當遇到批評的時候,我們便會分外敏感,容易怪責自己,又或是因為覺得不被理解而感到憤怒。這些不會是單一事件,因為童年陰影會使我們對這些情感上的侵犯分外敏感,所產生的自卑、孤獨感會反覆出現,影響著我們與自己和與其他人的互動。當這些模式反覆出現總有一天令情緒出現問題。焦慮症、抑鬱症等會使負面思想更嚴重,更難感受到愛。

反覆感到自卑孤獨
我們不能改變過去。童年不愉快的影響深遠,亦增加患上情緒病的風險。治療情緒病十分重要,否則便更難累積正面思想和更難感受到別人的關愛。而在治療情緒病的同時,當病人慢慢跟醫生建立關係,感受到原來有人關心自己,這種關係本身亦是一種靈丹妙藥。

文:何浩賢(精神科專科醫生)
相關字詞﹕情緒病 焦慮症 身分認同 抑鬱症 童年陰影 醫賢心事 精神科 何浩賢

1 6 2020

https://www.verywellmind.com/what-are-the-effects-of-childhood-trauma-4147640

traumatized child with head covered
Although adults often say things like, “He was so young when that happened. He won’t even remember it as an adult,” childhood trauma can have a lifelong effect. And while kids are resilient, they’re not made of stone.
That’s not to say your child will be emotionally scarred for life if he endures a horrific experience. With appropriate interventions, adults can help kids recover from traumatic experiences more effectively.1
But it’s important to recognize when your child may need professional help with dealing with a trauma. Early intervention could prevent your child from experiencing ongoing effects of the trauma as an adult.1
If you or a loved one are struggling with childhood trauma, contact the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) National Helpline at 1-800-662-4357 for information on support and treatment facilities in your area.
For more mental health resources, see our National Helpline Database.

What It Is

There are many different experiences that can constitute trauma. Physical or sexual abuse, for example, can be clearly traumatic for children.
One-time events, like a car accident or a particularly severe natural disaster (like a hurricane, for example), can take a psychological toll on children as well.1
Ongoing stress, such as living in a dangerous neighborhood or being the victim of bullying, can be traumatic, even if it just feels like daily life to an adult.2 In fact, nearly any event can be considered traumatic to a child if:
  • It happened unexpectedly
  • It happened repeatedly
  • Someone was intentionally cruel
  • The child was unprepared for it
Childhood trauma also doesn’t have to occur directly to the child; for instance, watching a loved one suffer can be extremely traumatic as well. Exposure to violent media can also traumatize children.3
Just because an experience is upsetting, however, doesn’t make it traumatic. Parental divorce, for example, will likely affect a child but it isn’t necessarily traumatizing.
It’s also important to remember that just because a child endured a tragedy or a near-death experience, doesn’t mean he’ll automatically be traumatized. Some kids are much less affected by their circumstances than others.4

When It Leads to PTSD

Many children are exposed to traumatic events at one point or another. While most of them experience distress following a traumatic event, the vast majority of them return to a normal state of functioning in a relatively short period of time.
Between 3 and 15 percent of girls and 1 to 6 percent of boys—develop post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) following a traumatic event.
Children with PTSD may re-experience the trauma in their minds over and over again. They may also avoid anything that reminds them of the trauma or they may re-enact their trauma in their play.5
Sometimes children believe they missed warning signs predicting the traumatic event. In an effort to prevent future traumas, they become hyper-vigilant in looking for warning signs that something bad is going to happen again.6
Children with PTSD may also have problems with:7
  • Fear
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Anger and aggression
  • Self-destructive behavior
  • Feelings of isolation
  • Poor self-esteem
  • Difficulty trusting others
Even children who don’t develop PTSD may still exhibit emotional and behavioral issues following a traumatic experience.6 Here are some things to watch out for during the weeks and months after an upsetting event:8
  • Increased thoughts about death or safety
  • Problems sleeping
  • Changes in appetite
  • Anger issues
  • Attention problems
  • School refusal
  • Somatic complaints like headaches and stomachaches
  • Loss of interest in normal activities
  • Irritability
  • Sadness
  • Development of new fears

Effect on Long-Term Health

Traumatic events can affect how a child’s brain develops. And that can have lifelong consequences.
A study published in 2015 showed that the more adverse childhood experiences a person has, the higher their risk of health and wellness problems later in life. Childhood trauma may increase an individual’s risk of:9
  • Asthma
  • Depression
  • Coronary heart disease
  • Stroke
  • Diabetes
A study published in 2016 in Psychiatric Times noted that the prevalence of suicide attempts was significantly higher in adults who experienced trauma, such as physical abuse, sexual abuse, and parental domestic violence, as a child.
If your child is having suicidal thoughts, contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 for support and assistance from a trained counselor. If you or a loved one are in immediate danger, call 911.

Effect on Relationships

A child’s relationship with his caregiver—whether his parents, grandparents or otherwise—is vital to his emotional and physical health. This relationship and attachment helps the little one learn to trust others, manage emotions and interact with the world around them.
When a child experiences a trauma that teaches him that he cannot trust or rely on that caregiver, however, he’s likely to believe that the world around him is a scary place and all adults are dangerous—and that makes it incredibly difficult to form relationships throughout their childhood, including with peers their own age, and into the adult years.10
Children who struggle to maintain healthy attachments to caregivers are likely to struggle with romantic relationships during adulthood. A 2008 Australian study of more than 21,000 child abuse survivors age 60 and older reported a higher rate of failed marriages and relationships.11

How to Help

Family support can be key to reducing the impact trauma has on a child. Here are some ways to support a child after an upsetting event:12
  • Encourage your child to talk about his feelings and validate his emotions.
  • Answer questions honestly.
  • Reassure your child that you’ll do everything you can to keep him safe.
  • Stick to your daily routine as much as possible.
If your child has been exposed to traumatic circumstances and you’ve noticed changes in her mood or behavior, talk to her pediatrician. A physician can evaluate your child’s health and, if necessary, make a referral for mental health treatment.
Depending on your child’s age and needs, she may be referred for services such as cognitive behavioral therapy, play therapy, or family therapy. Medication may also be an option to treat your child’s symptoms.13

A Word From Verywell


It’s never too late to get help. Whether you’ve adopted a teenager who was abused over a decade ago, or you’ve never received help for the traumatic experiences you endured 40 years ago, treatment can still be effective.

Monday, June 1, 2020

夢境治療,找回冰山下的自己




夢境往往在我們感到困擾和不安( 有時自己都不知道自己不安,壓抑下去了),迫不及待地跑出來,嚇嚇我們,哪怕是聲嘶力竭,或逼得人喘不過氣來。

最近發的一個頗為可怕的夢境,關於如何面對媽媽哀傷憂鬱,性情、情緒變化。面對一個陌生的媽媽,我內在的困擾。

夢境解析,走進自己的冰山,探索一個不熟悉的自己,是自我療癒 self coach process.

分享下my dream insights,也許可以給陪伴老人家的同路人帶來一些共鳴或啟發:

1 尋回自己

夢境聲嘶力竭地問:你是誰?你是誰? ( 指媽媽,你是誰?為什麼你這樣陌生?)

潛意識的superself - 我的夢境大人想我知道:

我還沒有接納一個不一樣的媽媽,活在不現實的世界,我有grief,沒有接納失去一個以前那個情緒穩定的媽媽。

夢境大人想我找回自己,要我看到有壓抑的自己; 那個活在自己世界的自己; 徬徨和焦慮的自己,面對家人的變化,不能適應的自己。

潛意識在說:我沒有接納別人的變化,也就是沒有接納自己的shadow。提醒我:接納自己,接納別人,安頓自己,才有能力陪伴家人度過晚年。

夢境提醒我了解媽媽多一些,也是去了解自己多一些的過程。

2 放下

“放下我啊!”夢中有很強烈的呼聲:叫我放下什麼?
直覺告訴我:

“放下我啊!” 是暗示和隱喻:我要學習放下自己的道德高地,不要給媽媽我高你低的感覺,要謙卑, 特別是留意語氣和環境的配合,留意溝通的目的,不是你說了什麼,而是別人收到什麼,結果最重要。

我要學習放下期望:一個不再脾氣的媽媽的期望。

媽媽發脾氣,是她生命來到此時此刻會出現的狀態,因為她哀傷後遺症和健康問題。我理解她多一些,就會和她的情緒保持多一些距離,最重要是自己的情緒可以穩定。

我要學習放下背負別人的責任,不需要為別人的心情脾氣負責任。不做拯救者的自己,做自己能力盡力可以做到的就好了。

3 並存的力量

是的,她不等於她的情緒。這個夢境提醒我:用多角度去看媽媽,不止看到她的情緒下的樣子和我還沒有理解的她,(性情變化,她的病在生理上對她的影響,哀傷失眠. .. 導致憂鬱),還要看到她能幹、好學、創意和解決問題那一面,溫柔關心我們的那一面。
我要對她有信心。內在是對自己要有相信。

4 安全感

夢境透視出我的安全感出現危機,我需要從自己內在找安全感,建立自己內在的父母,而不是在母親脆弱的時刻,失去希望。是的,夢境需要我去面對,而不是害怕逃避。

5 面對生命的一個轉折點

生老病死的課題,又出現在眼前。過程中,家人的情緒,自己的情緒,如何疏解,如何調節,如何掌控?

我要接納生命中一些不能改變的事實。掌控自己可以掌控。
那就是:學習做自己內在的父母,自己去創造一個完整完美的內在父母。

今天的別人,明天的自己,每天都是學習!
真的要謙卑,再謙卑。
學習如何好好地活出生命的價值,無論順境還是逆境。

噩夢,是矛盾的產物,是面對挑戰的rehearsal.

解夢 - 深度的潛意識心理治療,讓我們在失落、困惑中找回自己,看到希望、解決問題的創意。壓抑的心情得到釋放,心靈得到滋潤。





解夢,非常深刻的身心療愈和自我探索。每一個人或物,都包含隱喻,和自己的生命,現實,息息相關。
找回一個個陌生又真實的自己,擁抱他們,帶他們回家。
回到內在的家,充滿包容與溫暖的家。
解夢,學習接纳自己、愛自己的過程。
互相解夢和深入探索,延申的生命故事帶來的啟迪,和獨自解夢很不同的,有double impact, 我中有你,你中有我。你的夢就是我的夢,我的夢就是你的夢。

再次感受到:噩夢,如果不去解開,反而會加深困擾、恐懼和傷害。如果解開了,那種心花怒放,情緒上極大的安頓和釋放,夢境智慧帶來心靈的滋潤,解決問題的創意和面對挑戰的力量,是難以用筆墨形容的。

夢境往往在人們感到困擾和不安( 有時自己都不知道自己有不安,壓抑下去了),迫不及待地跑出來,嚇嚇我們,哪怕是聲嘶力竭,或逼得人喘不過氣來。
解夢 - 深度的潛意識心理治療,讓我們从失落、困惑中看到希望。


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1 6 2020