Showing posts with label pressure. Show all posts
Showing posts with label pressure. Show all posts

Sunday, June 21, 2015

夢教我減壓!How to deal with pressure and inner stress


今天早上的夢講自己發明了一個實驗模型,參加一個科學展覽,解釋為什麼會下雨:

模型裡有一張無形的紙,接住水蒸汽和水滴的壓力,但如果太大,就會穿破。

“由小水滴(小冰滴)構成的雲稱為水成雲(冰成雲)。當云為水成雲或冰成雲時,雲能否降水,取決於能否在較短時間內形成大量足夠大的雨滴(一個雨滴約合一百萬個雲中水滴)。雲中水滴形成雨滴的途徑有兩種。或者云中水滴自己不斷凝結變大,或者云與雲之間互相碰撞使得云中水滴相互結合,質量變大。當水滴的質量大到上升氣流無法將其“托住”時,水滴下降,便形成了雨。實際上,水滴僅僅靠自我凝結是很難變成足夠下降的雨滴的,主要的增長手段是通過水滴之間的相互結合。” 


為什麼會有這個夢呢?醒來直覺告訴我這是關於壓力的問題:

夢的trigger

這幾天做的催眠治療中都接觸到壓力、焦慮和自信危機的問題。結合自己面對壓力,用自我催眠減壓的效果和感受,寫了一篇文章:“如何面對壓力,減輕壓力,將壓力變動力?”
夢講的是水蒸汽的壓力大到上升氣流無法平衡,就會下雨!但比喻的是我們心理壓力大到身體和心理不能承受,就會出問題,健康和情緒的crash

夢,提醒我們身心平衡,內外平衡的重要性!

失去平衡的其中一個關鍵因素是自我價值( self esteem)出了問題:

Dr Denise ​​Waitley self esteem的定義講的透徹極了:

Self Esteem is deep down, inside the skin feeling of your own worth, regardless of your current performance. 自尊是你內心深處的自我價值,不管你目前的處境.

Self Esteem reflects a person's overall subjective emotional evaluation of his or her own worth. It is a judgment of oneself as well as an attitude toward the self.

所以,當自我價值放錯位置,壓力就會有心而發.

如何看待自己?

給自己太大壓力,逼自己做到最高,最好! 證明自己有能力,有power! 而罔顧身體的限制!健康的需要,忽略了其他更重要的東西:愛和關係!導致內外身心不合一,內外關係不協調,這樣,就會捲入更大的張力圈,來至身體和心理,家人和外在的壓力也就會更大!惡性循環!陷入自我的心理陷進罷了。

我會問:

是否一定要要把自己推到一個高地,財富或能力的高地?得到別人的認同才有價值?是否將自己的生存價值放錯了地方?生活的要求是否可以低一些,和自己身心接觸多一些,和大自然多一些連接,和家人的溝通質素高一些?家人的溝通和愛是否也是自我價值的一部分?

“自尊是你內心深處的自我價值,不管你目前的處境.

I use this sentence to release inner pressure , thinking if I have done my best, I will not care too much about others' views , but it does not mean I don't consider others' feedback. I need a balance system/stratify to stay in peace.

A truly health self-esteem is from inside out. Even if I was going to die or poor, i would be still feeling content andhopefully no  victim and inferior feeling. Always accepting who I am, grateful for presence and move forward. This is my thoughts and self - Hypnosis anytime i can use.

共勉之


夢的結局不是去參加展覽,而是選擇去數碼港看電影,哈哈哈,夢中已在減壓了!


21 6 2015

Saturday, June 20, 2015

How to deal with pressure and stress?


如何面對壓力,減輕壓力,將壓力變動力?

壓力可以是外在的,但stress 是自己造成的。

Stress是對外來的壓力的反應!是情緒的一種。有時,我們不能控制外來的壓力,但只要我們有能力去控制我們的反應,那我們就有選擇了!當我們有選擇,我們就有自由,來自內在的自由,不被外界任何壓力所捆綁!

做催眠治遼師,學習催眠,就可以隨時隨地給自己減壓,消除不必要的STRESS,讓我們的身心回到安頓的狀態。

心靜出智慧!

心靜才能進入潛意識的狀態,才有能力聆聽自己內在的聲音,才有理智去發現問題,解決內在矛盾。

很多壓力其實是自己一手創造的,適當的壓力讓我們進步,太大而不能應付,壓力就會摧毀健康!

為什麼會給自己如此大的壓力?我疏解自己的壓力時,經常是夢提醒我要將身體因素考慮進去,身體最直接地表達了潛意識,過於投入,或工作量超過自己的能力,就會導致壓力!這時,我會告訴自己,自己的心是想大家都受益,盡力吧,結果不重要,放鬆享受學習的過程,過勞自己,只會令過程不順,這不是我想要的結果!

另一個重要的原因是自我價值的問題, self esteem 的問題:

Definition of Self Esteem

In sociology and psychology, self-esteem reflects a person's overall subjective emotional evaluation of his or her own worth. It is a judgment of oneself as well as an attitude toward the self.

如何看待自己?

給自己太大壓力,逼自己做到最高,最好?證明自己有能力,有power! 而罔顧身體的限制!健康的需要,忽略了其他更重要的東西:愛和關係!導致內外身心不合一,內外關係不協調,這樣,就會捲入更大的張力圈,來至身體和心理,別人和外在的壓力也就會更大!惡性循環!陷入自我的心理陷進罷了。

我會問:

是否一定要要把自己推到一個高地,財富或能力的高地?得到別人的認同才有價值?是否將自己的生存價值放錯了地方?生活的要求是否可以低一些,但溝通質素高一些?家人的溝通和愛是否也是自我價值的一部分?

Dr Denis said:

Self Esteem is deep down, inside the skin feeling of your own worth, regardless of your current performance. 自尊是你內心深處的自我價值,不管你目前的處境.

I use this sentence to release inner pressure , thinking i have done my best, and don't care too much others' views , but does not mean I don't think of others feedback. But just a balance system to stay in peace.

A truly health self-esteem is from inside out. Even if i was going to die or poor, i would be still feeling content and no inferior feeling. Always accept who I am, grateful for presence and move forward. This is my thoughts and self - Hypnosis anytime i can use.

why such positive mindset.is sooo important? Because it is science of nature. Learn from animals, from trees...

They are so relaxed and graceful, peaceful.


 當我們不再將自我價值凌駕於健康,不再放在別人怎樣看自己的角度,而是自己如何平衡自己身心的角度,相信壓力會自然減少!愛自己多一些,人都輕鬆、自在好多!

感恩通過催眠治療工作,幫助別人的同時,我所說的每一句話,都是在在和自己做心理催眠,洗滌自己,強化自己,和別人一起成長!

以下是我的自我放鬆,反思和自我強化的催眠句子,共勉之:

有一些自我催眠的句子是我經常和自己的內在對話– 自我催眠:
1
只有半杯水?還有半杯水?我會選擇後者!還有半杯水!
2
I am not my emotion but I am my emotion owner. I am responsible for all my thoughts and outcome from the thoughts!

負面情緒不等於我們的一切。卻是我們的內在提示和信號。接受情緒,明白背後的正向動機,情緒就是我們的好朋友。取而代之的就是更多的好情緒,成為我們幸福、內在的富足的象徵。
3
I am not alone! (When I have emotion or feeling unsatisfied with myself or compare with others)
4
Yesterday is history
Tomorrow is mystery
Today is present! (Double meaning: 活在當下!)
5
Every day is a new day, full of opportunities.
This is the best time, a new learning time!
I am a student of life.
5
There is no failure but feedback. Eventfully it is my feedback determines my destiny.
6
Sleep with satisfaction and gratitude
Get up with dreams, gratitude and action power.
I have done a lot today whatever. I need to have a nice treat for myself!
7
Focus on what I have done instead of not yet and move forward with happiness visualization (BE DO HAVE.)
8
心靜出智慧!
9
When I can change, do all my best to change:
If I cannot, I accept it and move forward with other choices or opportunities. If no any choices ahead, then accept it and make the best time with my inner self, my family and people I love so much!
10
When Dr Denis once asked Chinese young people, “do u think you are great now?”
Most of them said, NO, because they have not achieved anything.
And Dr Denis said: I am sad for your answers. Then he said:
Self Esteem is deep down, inside the skin feeling of your own worth, regardless of your current performance.
自尊是你內心深處的自我價值,不管你目前的處境.