当别人说一些难听的话，令人不开心的话，我们自己是否会enrolled, hurt, 把自己打入冷宫
（ ｙｏｕ ｄｏｎ＇ｔ ｈａｖｅ ｔｏ ｂｅ ａｒｓｅ） all depends on our state of mind: you don't have to be hurt, it is not your experience, your world, it is their world, ｎｏｔ ｙｏｕｒｓ．or don't take it personally.
当我们明白别人背后的故事，心理状态，成长经历，我们就可以不被enrolled，反而会更有同理心和慈悲去达到和解，和睦。
