昨天，我的mentor，Red在百忙中和我談心， 在DP課室，只有我們兩個，好安靜，好溫馨，彷彿時光倒流.......
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我深深感受到Red的compassion， understanding and patience, her unconditional support and love in the critical time of my life.
Red的循循誘導，幫我好好的整理自己這段時間的心理狀態，深入解剖我的思緒，現在我面對的最大挑戰什麼？如何回到身心安頓......
生老病死，每個人生命的一部分，每個家庭，每個人都會遇上的挑戰。
在爸爸身體日趨惡化的情況下，如何和家人一起不斷調節自己的情緒，如何保持自己的內在平靜，如何照顧好自己，做好精神準備，是我們的重要課題。
Red 提醒我，要和家人一起，和爸爸道愛，道謝，愛是要表達的，讓爸爸感受到家人對他無條件的愛，無論疾病和智障折磨他什麼樣子, 無論他在那裡。 He is still our best father for ever.
所以，我會繼續寫信給爸爸，同時錄音，讓他都聽到我們家人對他的愛是多麼深，他會更有力量面對痛楚和衰退。
我會繼續感恩爸爸 -
您每天給我們上生命教育課，雖然漸漸你只能用身體，眼神和簡單的句子表達自己，但你從沒有抱怨的情緒，沒有放棄的念頭，心中總是有回到昨天的自己的盼望！
我提到爸爸不願脫下眼鏡睡覺，半夜起來也會帶上。彷彿在告訴我們，他還有好多美麗的東西沒有看過，還有未完成的心願，擔心自己一覺不醒。
Red 此刻提醒我要告訴爸爸，我們會更好的愛自己，我們會好好照顧媽媽，爱妈妈，珍惜生命的每一天，讓他安心，放心。
是的，我比任何時候都需要堅強，需要有承擔的心。 Red， 你的對我提醒太重要。
媽媽也比任何時候需要我們的關心，理解和支持。提醒我要和媽媽多些分擔她的壓力，工作量，聆聽她的心聲，為她排難解憂。
*My reflection and thanks to Red last night*
Dear Red
I was tearful on the way home recalling u words, our sharing, feeling just soo supportive, warm, inspiring， soothing.... Every time in my important moment, you came in time like an angel.
Immediately I shared with my mom after dinner about how to accompanying my dad during his late moment of life.
My mom told me last year they had done insurance question in 預設醫療 ，生死權的問題in USA。媽媽決定不搶救，爸爸開始不同意，但後來被勸後也同意了。我第一次聽到媽媽講這個嚴肅的問題。我突然感到有陣陣難受，好像不想爸爸媽媽這樣離開，一種很強的attachment霎時湧現。看來，好好的面對死亡仍是我很大的issue。
My mother was so released tonight, like me , you can see the photo. She loves my father soo much, now she will express her love to my father , I will do orally, I told her your great advice.
She also suggested asking what my father wants he wants to fulfill ,to do , to eat, ....
I was soo happy to see my mom is so peaceful to share with me her deep heart voice...tonight
Today is my crucial day. I will digest your words...
The quality of life is quality of communication .
I message, yes. Compassion, understanding, tonality....
Trying to become a good daughter, mother, wife and my own coach.... whole life learning from challenges and 人生自然規律
平靜的心，愛自己, 照顧好自己，才能照顧家人, 陪伴別人。
這是您給我上的最寶貴的一課，我感受最深的地方。
感恩,我的生命教練，Red, 有你的陪伴，我感覺輕鬆很多，more aware of myself....
Red replied:
Dear Donna:
I'm very, very touched by what you wrote above. I read it this morning and it gave me a powerful start 💪🏼
THANK YOU for being a brave, humble soul, who is willing to serve and learn and grow everyday. Your family needs you. The wiser, stronger, and self-aware you are, the better you're in a position to support your family . I''m therefore extremely proud of you that you could give your mother immeasurable comfort last night 💖💖💖
I trust you have FULL strength to go through this path of facing your father's health situation with your mother. I trust you also have abundant blessings from heaven to support your father in facing his fragile life. Love, Peace, Wisdom, may all these great powers of humanity be with you 💜💚❤💛💖💝🌟✨💫
I'll always be willing to walk by your side. Add Oil ⛽⛽⛽
Sending you, your father, your mother, and your family 😘😘😘
Red
19 9 2017
Dear Red
Your fully trust in me, confidence in me and support to me teaches me what a life coaching is about: it is all about empowerment! Helping people to find their own resources!
You have an ocean of love, compassion and understanding, patience, my example of being a life coach.
Every time in my important moment of life, you came in time like an angel. I don't know where is the attraction and power given me all the way.
Red,you are truly an angel of many people.
Donna
19 9 2017
