Showing posts with label a letter to Father. Show all posts
Showing posts with label a letter to Father. Show all posts

Sunday, June 16, 2019

Dear Dad at the 2nd Father's day with songs

M Letter to dad  16 6 2019


Dear Dad

Today is the second Father's day you are not physically with us.

Nevertheless your spirit walks beside us everyday.

Thinking of you always gives me warmth, inspiration and energy.

Being Creative, Positive and Optimistic always! Your motto will be lingering in my mind forever...



Dear Father

You showed us to love ourselves is the greatest love of all;
You indicated us how to see yourself makes who you are;
You illustrated how to manage challenges with creativity;
You practiced how to turn dreams into realty with joy despite hardships;
You taught us how to live in difference with compassion;
You demonstrated how to experience death with peace and acceptance.
You revealed that life is just endless adventures, explorations and fun.
Just live well. You wished us...

親愛的爸爸

今天是您離開我們的第二個父親節,
然而,你的精神每天都陪伴著在我們。
每次想到您,都令我們倍感溫暖有力量。

 您的座右銘,創新,積極和樂觀,
永遠留在我們的腦海裡......

親愛的爸爸

你教曉我們什麼是愛,從愛自己開始;
你告訴我們,別人怎樣看你不重要,
你怎樣看自己,決定你的命運。

您用行動證明夢想可以成真,
只要帶著享受挑戰,
積極樂觀面對困難的態度。

您教曉我們用慈悲大愛,
求大同,存小異。

你告訴我們,接受生老病死,生命的規律,
最後的人生都可以活得坦然,平靜。

你用熱情如火生命,
展現出無窮的智慧和創意,
充滿無盡探索和樂趣。

您的心願,我們會記住:
珍惜每一天,活好每一天;
就可以今生無悔。

我深深感到,if we can make peace with death issue, we can live much happier and freer.










The songs are my favorite and I would like dedicate them to you.
Wish you very day embraced with the beautiful songs ...

Daughter
Donna🙏❤️





From the start you were first

He loves you at your worst

He'll do anything, a father

He shows you what love is

Saw your dreams before you did

He'll give everything, like your Heavenly Father

I see God in my father's eyes, I see God

A father's like the Father in the way he loves you

A father's like the Father when he carries you through

I am my father's daughter as I'm loving another

See love from my Father in Heaven

Through the eyes of my father on Earth

A strong hand as your guide

Feel his strength by your side

He'll give anything, a father

Feels your pain when you do

Has the words to give you

He is everything, like your Heavenly Father

I see love in my father's eyes, I see love

A father's like the Father in the way he loves you

A father's like the Father when he carries you through

I am my father's daughter as I'm loving another

See love from my Father in Heaven

Through the eyes of my father on Earth

I see God in my father's eyes, I see God

A father's like the Father in the way he loves you

A father's like the Father when he carries you through

I am my father's daughter as I'm loving another

See love from my Father in Heaven

Through the eyes of my father on Earth

Through the eyes of my father on Earth

Through the eyes of my father on Earth


Jon Barker - Thank You For Being My Dad

A son rarely tells his Father
How he really feels,
A handshake or a pat on the back is all that he reveals,
I'd like to right that wrong,
Here in this little song.
Thank you for shaping my life,
Thank you for teaching me all you can,
You are no ordinary man,
You make me everything I am.
Thank you for taking the time,
Thank you for showing me the way,
And thank you for being there when I need you,
Thank you for every single day.
Now I've been blessed with a son of my own,
Got my own bedtime stories to tell,
If I can raise him half as well as you raised me,
Guess I'll be doing pretty well.
Thank you for your guiding hand,
Thank you for making my dreams come true,
You're an extraordinary man,
And I hope you're as proud of me
As I am proud of you.
Thank you for giving me life,
Thank you for showing me good from bad.
I guess I'm only really trying to say,
Thank you for being my Dad.
Even though the years drift away, I
never took the time just to say,
‘I love you, and I always have,
And thank you for being my Dad.'
‘Thank you for being my Dad.'

http://www.songlyrics.com/jon-barker/thank-you-for-being-my-dad-lyrics/


Greatest Love Of All (Whitney Houston
I decided long ago, never to walk in anyone's shadows
If I fail, if I succeed
At least I'll live as I believe
No matter what they take from me
They can't take away my dignity
Because the greatest love of all
Is happening to me
I found the greatest love of all
Inside of me
The greatest love of all
Is easy to achieve
Learning to love yourself
It is the greatest love of all.




16 6 2019

Friday, July 21, 2017

Dear Dad


在“親親爸爸” - 家庭系統排列工作坊中,老師讀出海靈格(90多歲, 家庭系統排列創始人)給父親的信:
https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/TJnopafxZ_58V3ZrcMmFbQ

之后,我們每一個人都開始寫一封信給自己的父親。老師帶來一些很特別的信紙,很有懷舊感,彷彿回到70,80年代,讓我們的父親也會到當年,感受我們真摯的愛。

帶著深深的愛和感恩,在這張特別的信紙上,我寫了一封給父母的信。

 老師叫我們把這封信給給爸爸媽媽看,他們一定會好高興,會為我們驕傲。 Yes, I will.

Dear Father

今天在《親親爸爸工作坊》,我寫下自己的心情,想寫很久了。

最近一兩年,你的身體大不如以前,心肺功能衰退,影響了你的記憶力。你開始變得糊里糊塗,不記得這,不記得那,走路不穩,甚至跌倒,必須用氧氣幫助正常的生活.....

以前,你一直是走在前面, 精神奕奕,活力無窮,making impossible to possible, 好像沒有什麼可以難倒你,你是我的榜樣,leading me to move forward。

 現在,年邁的你,身體已經衰弱,但仍走在我前面,因為我要在後面保護你,怕你 隨時會跌倒。


 你最近說:,“肺部纖維化,腦退化有好有不好,好處在於我要研究探索這些病,學習如何面對,不好的是搞的我糊里糊塗。” 你正經的說。把我們都逗笑了。

是的,生命对你来说,就是探索!

雖然你的病令人擔心,但你的這種childlike spirit,天真,好奇,你的樂觀,你仍盼望去旅遊的一天,你重複的問一些關心我們,掛念親人的問題,都令我感到,骨子裡,爸爸還是爸爸,無論疾病令你變成怎樣!

我感受到媽媽的壓力和焦慮,這個過程,我和媽媽都在成長。都需要學習接納生命的變化,才能讓自己活在當下,珍惜擁有,幸福不是一定要得到什麼,反而是一個經歷,面對挑戰的經歷,從中提升自己的能力。

媽媽雖然倍感壓力,但她也越來越懂得如何面對壓力,處理自己的焦慮,越來越堅強。

我和媽媽一起,陪著你,一起面對生死的課題,學習 the art of losing - 失去的藝術。
 學習你那種面對疾病的從容和坦然。

我們也在成長。

爸爸,幾個月前,你還有些精神幫我修改我翻譯的 電影 “STILL ALICE" 裡面的 演講,幫我糾正讀音, 為一個老人中心的工作坊做準備。工作坊很成功,大家都為ALICE坦然面對早期智障疾病的折磨的精神而感動。

在這裡,我再次送給你聽:The Art of Losing ,聆聽腦退化病人和家人的心聲

http://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2017/02/blog-post_16.html


 “我的昨天在消失了,我的明天也不確定,我為每一天而活著。我活在此刻。我會忘記我站在你面前,發表演講。但因為我明天會忘記,並不意味著我今天不可以活在當下。我今天也會忘記一些東西,但這並不意味著今天對我不重要。”

Alice 說的好,代表了千千萬萬智障病人的心聲。也是你今天的寫照。

謝謝你,爸爸,你用行動教我們如何活在當下!接受疾病和死亡的挑戰,但仍然可以樂觀,自在,從不抱怨。

爸爸,你今天走的路,也是我們明天走的路,體驗生命的晚期,體驗死亡,一種極大的挑戰,學習,你給我們做了榜樣。

此刻,想起我的icon,90多歲的心理治療師 Louise Hay說的話:

When people think of loss, the idea of finding meaning or anything beneficial from it seems contradictory. But whether it’s a breakup, divorce, or even death, there is more to be found, depending on how you hold the thoughts around it. It’s not that you can stop the loss from occurring; it’s that your thoughts change everything that comes after the loss. ( Louise Hay) 








With love and  hug
女兒:冬冬


在寫信分享中,我說:

我感受到媽媽的壓力和焦慮,這個過程,我媽媽也在成長。也感受到我們都需要學習接納生命的變化,才能讓自己活在當下,珍惜擁有,幸福不是一定要得到,而是一個態度和經歷,面對挑戰,也是一種能力。

老師分享她對照顧媽媽的經歷和感受,感同身受,從病人的角度,感受別人的感受,接納病人的心情,從而令自己平靜,平靜才有愛,才能有慈悲心,真正報答父母愛。

今天的工作坊,是一個非常重要的生命教育。 Rebecca 給我們樹立了一個活生生的面對生老病死的榜樣,令我終生難忘。

愛的教育,終生的學習!

看看每個同學面帶笑容,輕鬆不少,就知道這一天工作坊,我們是多麼喜悅,充實。

 我們對愛的理解又多了一些:The greatest love is to learn to love ourselves!




21 7 2017