做自己的心身治療師, 做自己的生命掌舵人

我是Donna，一位身心治療師、催眠治療師，夢境和敘事治療師。這裏，我分享自我療愈，身心修復、身心整合的理念和方法，個案和啓示。分享夢境啓迪、生命故事、探索人性和健康知識、如何運用潛意識的力量，活得自在輕鬆、潛能得到有效的發揮。這裏，記載了我工作和日常生活的啟迪。讀懂一個人，與人產生深刻的連結，陪伴人們活出健康和夢想的天空，是我的夢想。 Being a dream therapist, hypnotherapist, and health therapist, my philosophy is to improve abilities in self management, self healing, self coaching and body-mind in alignment.

Monday, April 18, 2022

Glennon Doyle on the Beauty of Letting Go

The greatest gift of a parent to their children is to live their life well.

Clennon said:

"From the beginning, the mother was martyred in the name of the child. We lived as if she, who disappeared the most, loved the most. We have become accustomed to proving our love by slowly ceasing to exist.

What a terrible burden children have to bear - to know that they are the reason their mothers stopped living. What a terrible burden our daughters have to bear - know that if they choose to become mothers, it is their fate too. Because if we show them that being a martyr is the highest form of love, they will be. After all, they will feel obligated to love as their mother loved. They will believe that they have the right to live as fully as their mothers allow them.

If we continue to pass on the legacy of martyrdom to our daughters, who will it end with? Which woman will survive? When will executions begin? At a wedding reception? In the delivery room? Whose maternity ward - our child's or our own? When we call it martyrdom love, we teach our children that when love begins, life ends. That's why Jung suggested: There is no greater burden for a child than a life the parents have not lived. "

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wP5acXmQ_iY

My comments:

Thanks Glennon and Ellen who teach us that Love Self starts from Trust: trust our intuition, to trust our emotions, feelings as information and GPS as where we need to go and what we need to change , to trust our imagination as a blueprint of our life, Love self starts TRUST.

學習放手，從相信自己開始

學習愛自己：從感受自己的感受開始

聆聽我們的情緒，我們的感覺：作為信息，我們的 GPS...☝️ 細節就像我喜歡說的一樣：善解人意，對自己富有同情心，讓我們對他人富有同情心

Learnings notes and my reflections:

1 Get lost?

Try to find who you are and what you really need.

2 How to move on when you lost your loved one?

That Grief is like a stone, it will be there, let it be there and you will make your life different with it, either better self or worse. up to your own choice. Grief is a gift to your life, a big transformation when you move for better self.

Anything devastating you changes you

Hopefully it is a learning experiences to change you for better

When you have a broken heart, you cracks let light in to your heart

Let's light in, don't put on a wall around your heart.

3 Let go of our control to our kids and our kids will lead their way

To honor our kids we raised and

Trust our kids, their will lead your way.

Honor as verb:

to regard or treat (someone) with admiration and respect : to regard or treat with honor

Our parents try to control our kids, worry too much, project their expectations and fears on our kids. That is not LOVE.

4 How to start self love, where we start?

Story from Glennon on her control to her husband:

When we ask our spouse to do this or that, don't do this or that, we are controlling people, making them feel we don't trust them, let them feel inferior. Kids get the same feelings as well.

It strikes me that i made similar mistakes and my son said i made him feel like a kid ( asking him to sleep early or take clothes...), when I feel I don't just care him. And he would say mind your own business and u also need to tale care of yourself...

We can either love them or control them.

Same thing to ourselves: we go back to our inner self, to trust our intuition, to trust our emotions, feelings as information and GPS as where we need to go, to trust our imagination as a blueprint of our life, as a pipe drain. Love self starts TRUST.

迷路？

試著找出你是誰以及你真正需要什麼。

失去親人後如何繼續前進？

悲傷就像一塊石頭，它會在那裡，讓它在那裡，你會讓你的生活變得不同，要么更好，要么更糟。取決於你自己的選擇。 Grief 是給您生活的禮物，是您為更好的自己而行動時的一次重大轉變。

任何破壞你的事情都會改變你

希望這是一次學習經歷，可以讓您變得更好

當你有一顆破碎的心時，你的裂縫讓光芒照進你的心

讓我們點亮，不要在你的心臟周圍築起一道牆。

為了尊重我們撫養長大的孩子，

相信我們的孩子，他們會引領你前進。

我們的父母試圖控制我們的孩子，過度擔心，將他們的期望和恐懼投射到我們的孩子身上。那不是愛。

如何開始自愛，我們從哪裡開始？