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DETECTING THE HYPNOTIC IN COACHING CONVERSATIONS 催眠對話
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DETECTING THE HYPNOTIC IN COACHING CONVERSATIONS


From Dr. Michael Hall
Article No2020_28
Article Date 1st July 2020
Making Your Conversations Hypnotic #2

If indeed all communication inherently involves aspects of the hypnotic and if an intense and personal coaching conversation takes a person inside in a hypnotic way— how can you tell?  How can you recognize when a client is in a trance state?  How can you use hypnotic language patterns in an effective way in your coaching?
事實上,所有的溝通都涉及到催眠,如果一個強烈的個人教練對話讓一個人進入催眠 - 你如何辨別呢?當客戶處於恍惚狀態時,你如何識別?你如何在教練中有效使用催眠的語言模式?


In answer, calibrate to your client.  Learn to tell when a client is speaking from what’s on the edge of his tongue versus when he goes inside and enters into a “downtime” state.  Can you tell?  What are the signs of a trance?  It’s obvious when a person goes into a deep trance— eyes glaze over or close, facial muscles smooth out, breathing becomes slower and muscle tension relaxes, etc.  Similarly, these same signs will be there when your client is turning inward— except they will be more minimal and less obvious, hence he need to calibrate.
答案是量度客戶。學習識別客戶是從舌尖講出的話還是進入「停機」的內心狀態。你能辨別嗎?恍惚的跡象是甚麼?明顯的是,當一個人進入深度恍惚狀態時,眼睛會無神或關閉、面部肌肉就會平滑、呼吸會變得更慢,肌肉放鬆,等等。當客戶轉向內在時,也會有相同的跡象 – 差別是這些跡象會更小,更不明顯,所以他需要被量度。


Perhaps the biggest difference will be the time element.  In a coaching conversation, your client will be going in and coming out ... sometimes moment by moment.  The time spent in trance will be short, sometimes momentarily ... and there will usually not be any awareness of this in your client.  From her perspective, she is just talking and she thinks she is present to you.  In terms of calibration— you will have to refine your skills to tell when your client is inside and when outside.
也許最大的區別是時間元素。在教練談話中,客戶將會進進出出時時刻刻進進出出。在恍惚狀態中花費的時間會很短,有時是短暫的……客戶通常不會有任何察覺。從她的角度來看,她只是在說話,她認為自己在當下。關於量度方面 - 你必須細化你的技能,辨別客戶處於內在還是外在。


Here’s a clue.  Whenever you ask questions that cannot be immediately answered, but the person has to think about something, the person will be going inside to access that information.  This is where detailed questions— questions about what something looked like, sounded like, felt like, etc. are often questions that cannot be immediately answered.  This is where asking Meta-Model questions often elicits what we call a transderivational search to the person’s reference index.  In everyday language — he has gone inside to get his reference (what he’s thinking about), when, where, how, etc.  He is in a trance.  At that point, the question for you is —what trance states are you inviting?
這裡有一個線索。每當你提問那種不能立即回答的問題時,由於他必須去思考,所以他會進入內心去提取那些資訊。那種細節問題,例如關於東西看起來像什麼、聽起來像什麼、感覺起來像什麼的問題,往往是不能立即回答的問題。這就是語言檢定模式問題的地方,它往往會引發我們對參考索引的詞源轉移搜尋(transderivational search)。在日常語言中 - 他已經進入內在,得到了他的參考(他在想什麼)、什麼時候、在哪裡、如何,等等。他在恍惚中。在這一點上,你要問的是 你引發了什麼恍惚狀態?


Now because the coaching conversation is designed to be a dialogue— an exchange of meaning as you ask about the person’s meanings, the trance states are often just a second or two long.  The person goes there and comes back out with the required information.  Sometimes in your conversations, you have probably noted that a person is taking a long time.  Depending on the context and the conversation— you might “hold that space” so the person can gather her thoughts while inside.  And to help her, you might want to quietly utter the key words that will help her stay focused there.
現在,因為教練談話的目的是對話 - 當你詢問這個人的意義時的一種意義交換,恍惚狀態通常只有一兩秒鐘的時間。那個人進入到那裡後,就帶著所需的資訊回來。有時在對話中,你可能注意到他花了很長時間。取決於場景和對話 - 你可能要「留那個空間」,讓她在內心收集她的思維。為了幫助她,你可能想要悄悄說出那些有助於她保持專注的關鍵字匯。


At other times, the person is inside and up against an internal barrier.  It may be a taboo, a repression, a blank, etc.  Now you not only “hold the space” but validate that moment and that experience giving the person permission to be there, to “not know,” to just stay there, and that it’s okay.  At other times, the person may be inside getting stuck in a negative loop.  Since that is never useful, you will want to detect that and then interrupt that old dysfunctional trance and bring the person out.  That’s when you need to have several ways to do a state interrupt.
在其他時候,她有可能進入後碰到一個內部障礙。這可能是一個禁忌、一個壓抑、一個空白,等等。現在你不僅「保持空間」,也要認可允許他在那裡、允許他不知道 允許他留在那裡的時刻和體驗,以及認可那是可行的。在其他時候,這個人可能會被困在一個消極的迴圈中。既然那種迴圈從來不會帶來好處,所以你要偵測到這一點,然後打斷那個舊的失能恍惚狀態,把他帶出來。這就是你需要用幾種方法來中斷狀態。


As a Meta-Coach I suggest that you start with this recognition — the hypnotic is present when you are coaching.  Why is that?  Simply because the person’s larger unconscious or out-of-conscious mind is present.  The person sitting there has lots of history (past) that’s held in memory.  The person sitting there has lots of future that’s held in her imagination.  Many of the person’s knowledge is now in the body, in muscle memory, it also is there.  By recognizing the presence of the hypnotic— you can also begin to listen for and distinguish old trances that the person is living.  Often these are the very trances the person has come to have you help them de-hypnotize so that they can stop their past from being so determinative in today’s living.
作為一名大成教練(Meta-Coach),我建議你從這種認知開始:當你在做教練的時候,催眠就會出現。為什麼呢?簡單地說,因為這個人的潛意識或無意識的頭腦是存在的。這個人在他的記憶中有很多歷史(過去)。這個人在她的想像中有很多未來。這個人的許多知識在他的身體裡、在肌肉記憶中,也在那裡。通過認識到催眠的存在 - 你也可以開始聆聽和區分那個人生活中的老舊恍惚狀態。那些人通常就是為了要解除那些恍惚狀態而求助於你,這樣他們就能阻止過去決定他們現在的生活。


In Executive Thinking (2018) and Brain Camp we focus on aspects of the unconscious (the not-thinking) and how you can detect these aspects of the person’s experience.  When you know how the old learnings, the limiting ideas, beliefs, and decisions manifest themselves— you can begin to calibrate for them and catch them in real time.  And as you become increasingly skilled in recognizing the hypnotic moments, you’ll be developing your skills for leading Hypnotic Conversations (2020).
在高階思維(Executive Thinking 2018)和大腦集中營,我們關注於無意識(不思考)方面,以及你如何偵測這些人在這方面的體驗。當你知道舊的學識、限制的想法、信念和決定如何顯現時,你就可以開始量度並即時捕捉它們。當你對識別催眠時刻越來越熟練時,你將會發展指引催眠對話的技能(2020年)。


(The last Articles 上一篇文章)
Article No 2020_27
Article Date 24th June 2020
Making Your Conversations Hypnotic #1



NGH Hypnosis Trainer 2020



教練對話
可以是催眠嗎?
文章編號:2020_27  
文章日期:2020624
類別:讓談話有催眠效果#1

作為一名大成教練,你知道所有關於教練的基本對話。你已經接受了五種對話的訓練:這是清晰對話嗎?這是決定對話嗎?這是計畫對話嗎?這是資源或體驗對話嗎?這是改變對話嗎?絕大多數的教練對話是屬於這五種基本類別。

PCMC培訓和手冊中,可以找到關於這些對話的區別。而重點是在於能夠與客戶進行戰略上的思考。也就是說,思考你與客戶渴望東西之間的關係。接下來的每一次對話都需要不同的狀態和不同的策略。幾乎每一個對話都以清晰對話開始,因為它需要通過溝通對話來來回交流,從客戶角度瞭解客戶 - 並開始認識客戶使用的製作意義模式。

當然,還有更多種類的教練對話。你會在《教練對話》書中找到一些,你也會在《全體性教練》以及《高管教練》書中找到一些具體的教練對話。至於團隊方面,《團隊教練》書中也有團隊教練的對話。

現在來回答另一個問題,乍看這似乎是很奇怪的問題。教練談話能有催眠效果嗎?其實這是一個很容易回答的問題。答案是當然。當你引導客戶進入內心,使他聚焦在某個問題上 – 可能是一個記憶,一個想像,一個概念 - 你就引發了一種催眠狀態。這個狀態不同於外部感官意識的運作狀態。它是一種停機狀態(這是NLP的用語)。這個人自己進入了內心。

我說,「當然」是因為交換詞語、交換關於意義的對話以及溝通就是邀請聆聽者和回應者進入內心。這是不可避免的。這就是詞語的運作方式。要搞懂任何詞語、短語、句子或故事,你必須進入你的內心,去提取你所學到的語言代碼。如果你沒有學習語言代碼,那麼所有的詞語對你來說是胡言亂語。你不知道他們在說什麼或談論什麼。從這個方面來理解,語言本身是催眠的。這就是為什麼在NLP我們說所有的溝通都是有催眠效果的。

因此,每當你和客戶在進行一場激烈談論一些不在場的事情,例如他的工作、配偶、孩子、老闆、財務交易、運動等,你和客戶,至少有部分,是處於催眠狀態的。這就是你在NLP培訓學習彌爾頓模式時所學到的知識。如果你也有高級執行師培訓,那麼你就學會了如何識別催眠語言模式以及如何使用它們的基本知識

對大成教練來說,這很重要。為什麼?原因有很多。這是一個。因為一個基本的核心教練能力是狀態誘導(技能# 7),你可以引出、誘導、邀請、加深和使用客戶的狀態對成為一個有效的教練至關重要。這使教練過程是體驗式的。如果你不能這樣做 - 而且大多數教練都不能!- 你就不能真正「教練」客戶。你只是在聊天。你只是在理智上談教練,而不是在教練。教練,作為一種親密、強烈、深度的個人對話,絕對需要引入狀態,使客戶感受到和體驗到對話的意義。

這是一個足夠強大的理由嗎?觀看大多數教練的對話,尤其是那些沒有受過NLP訓練的教練,你將會看到無聊、毫無意義、平淡和沒有蛻變式的談話。任何人都可以進行那些對話!一個真正的教練有什麼區別?那就是你知道如何讓一個人體驗和在情感上感受事情,我希望每一位大成教練都有此區別。這就是狀態誘導。如果客戶沒有發生重大的蛻變 – 請你回顧並練習在ACMC手冊的狀態誘導技能。然後每天練習,直到你看起來像,聽起來像你說的。

雖然教練不是催眠,但在某種程度上,這是一種能進入事物核心的深度感覺對話,並帶來轉變 – 教練在本質上是催眠的。這就是這本新書《催眠思考》(2020)以及《催眠式對話》(PDF檔)要表達的具體相關內容。



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Jun 25, 2020, 9:45 PM (10 days ago)
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COACHING CONVERSATIONS
Can They be Hypnotic
From Dr. Michael Hall,ISNS
Article No 2020_27
Article Date 24th June 2020
Making Your Conversations Hypnotic #1

As a Meta-Coach, you know all about the basic conversations that are inherent in coaching.  You have been trained to discern the first five: Is this a clarity conversation?  Is this a decision conversation?  Is this a planning conversation?  Is this a resourcing or experiencing conversation?  Is this a change conversation?  The great majority of coaching conversations will fall into those five basic categories.

In PCMC training and in the manual, there are pages about the distinctions within those conversations.  And the importance of that lies in being able to think strategically with your clients.  That is, to think in terms of where are you in relationship to what your client wants?  Further each conversation entails a different state and a different strategy.  Almost every conversation begins with a clarity conversation because it takes the communication dialogue of going back and forth in an effort to understand your client— on your client’s terms— and to begin to recognize the meaning-making patterns which your client uses.

There are, of course, many more coaching conversations.  You will find some in the book, Coaching Conversations, you will find specific ones in Systemic Coaching, as well as in Executive Coaching.  And when it comes to coaching groups of people, there are yet even more coaching conversations (Group and Team Coaching).

Now for another question, and one that may seem strange upon first glance.  Can a coaching conversation be hypnotic?  Actually that’s an easy question to answer.  The answer is yes, of course.  Anytime you take a client inside so that he focuses narrowly on some concern— a memory, an imagination, a concept— you have just induced a hypnotic state.  This state differs from an uptime state of being in external sensory awareness.  It is a downtime state (to use NLP language).  The person has gone down inside herself.

I said, “yes, of course,” because to exchange words, to dialogue about meanings, to “communicate” is to invite your listener and responder to go inside.  It is inevitable.  That’s how words work.  To make sense of any word, phrase, sentence, or story, you have to go inside yourself to access the linguistic code that you have learned.  If you didn’t learn the linguistic code, then all of the words are gibberish to you.  You do not know what they are saying or talking about.  It is in this sense that language itself is hypnotic.  That’s why in NLP we say that all communication is hypnotic.

So whenever you and your client are engaged in an intensely focused conversation about things not present — the person’s job, spouse, children, boss, financial dealings, exercise, etc.— you and your client are, at least partially, in a hypnotic state.  That’s what you learned when you learned the Milton Model in your NLP trainings.  And if you took Master Practitioner training, you learned the basics about how to recognize hypnotic language patterns and how to use them.

This is important as a Meta-Coach.  Why?  For many reasons.  Here’s one.  Because a basic core coaching competency is state induction (skill #7), your ability to elicit, induce, invite, deepen, and use your client’s state is essential to being an effective coach.  That’s what makes coaching experiential.  If you cannot do this — and most coaches cannot! — you cannot truly “coach.”  You are only have a chat.  You are merely intellectualizing about coaching and not coaching.  Coaching, as an intimate, intense, deep, personal conversation absolutely requires the induction of state so that the client feels and experiences the meanings of
the conversation.

Is that a strong enough reason why?  Watch most coaching conversations, especially by people who have not been trained in NLP, and you will be watching boring, blah, bland, and non-transformational talks.  Anyone could carry on those talks!  What distinguishes a true coach — and hopefully every Meta-Coach, is that you know how to get a person to experience and emotionally feel things.  That’s what state induction is all about.  If your client’s are not getting significant transformational changes — review and practice the state induction skills in your ACMC manual.  Then practice daily until you can look like and sound like what you’re talking about.

While coaching is not hypnosis, to the extent it is a deeply felt conversation that gets to the heart of things and brings about transformation — coaching is hypnotic in nature.  That’s what the new book, Thinking Hypnotically (2020) is all about and more specifically what the PDF file book, Hypnotic Conversations is all about.



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