Tuesday, November 5, 2019

Acknowledge feelings is the first step to change in life

All behaviors start from feelings;
Feelings drive emotion and emotion determine attitude and belief.
And it is your feelings determine your action and your relationship and destination - your fate!








以上这句话不是那么简单,其实,感受自己的感受,有几种方式

第一种:确认自己的感受,自己的情绪,理解自己的情绪,反思自己的情绪,感受的前因后果,根源和意义。然后想想:带着这样的情绪 - 如愤怒,忧郁,焦虑,烦躁,埋怨,内疚,担心,逃避等等,对自己和家人、伴侣和亲人,会有什么结果,好处和害处,然后做出爱自己,理智的洗澡,这就是转化, 成长。就是做了对自己有意义,对别人都有价值的事情!



第二种:堕入self pity, 或受害者的深渊,都是别人的错,或自己的错,以偏概全,或因为什么不愉快,不顺利的事情,就把自己关起来,把自己打入情绪的牢笼。被情绪带着走。因为有情绪,正常的社交,正常的礼貌,最基本的道德或责任,和家人的基本的沟通,关心都没有了,回到婴儿状态,这是倒退,人的理智、思想和情感能力和功能倒退。regression!


什么是知道自己的情绪,感受?

如果是后者,表面上是很同情自己,但结果是在害自己。这不是acknowledge self feelings, but numb your feelings and get back to habituate your feelings in a backward, negative way.


第三种:自己的感受是和别人的感受,互动连在一起的。有因必有果。当你感受到被hurt,被看扁或被不认同和重视,你可以自己不这样去对别人,因为制有你自己可以最肯定自己,自己的价值感不是别人决定。这就是同理心带来的正向结果,这样,恶性循环的对抗就可以从自己终止!

相反,你去用同样的方法对付别人,这是报复,只能更加伤害关系。

https://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2019/10/power-tool-empathy-vs-assertiveness.html

Power tool: Empathy vs. Assertiveness




Feelings and empathy in organisational behaviour

  1. 1. FEELINGS AND EMPATHY PRESENTED BY: ABHISHEK KYAL
  2. 2. Feelings are bodily states that , do not live in mind/brain; These are whole body experience , meditated largely by hormones as well as neurons.
  3. 3. INTUITIVE PHYSIOLOGICAL EMOTIONAL FEELINGS
  4. 4. EMPATHY Empathy is the experience of understanding another person’s condition from their perspective. “EMPATHY IS ABOUT STANDING IN SOMEONE ELSE’S SHOE, FEELING WITH HIS OR HER HEART, SEEING WITH HIS OR HER EYES. NOT ONLY IS EMPATHYHARD TO OUTSOURCE AND AUTOMATE BUT IT MAKES THE WORLD A BETTER PLACE” - DANIEL H. PINK
  5. 5. IMAGINATIVE EMPATHY WHEEL MIRRORED EMPATHIC SELF
  6. 6. THANK YOU FEEL GOOD AND BE EMPATHETIC

第三种:自己先去感受下如果这样做,如果我是对方,我会有什么感受,别人会有什么感受,这样的感受应用,可以大大减少伤害,而且可以大大提升爱的能力,爱自己的能力,爱别人的能力。

Ref:

https://www.google.com/search?q=always+acknowledge+your+feelings&sxsrf=ACYBGNRygKYgNXIpfmknywgR5pqcoCFJ8w:1572925757642&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwj8iKuIldLlAhVCzmEKHbNDCY0Q_AUIEigB&biw=1920&bih=920#imgrc=dq4zyHBIrvCa3M:

 https://thebestbrainpossible.com/the-quickest-way-to-change-how-you-feel-is-to-change-how-you-think/


https://hbr.org/2016/11/3-ways-to-better-understand-your-emotions

心態改變感受 ,學習改變自己的感受,不做受害者,世界會變得不一樣。
Only when we can change our feelings, change ourselves, we can change the world.

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