先生從她姐姐家裡清理遺物，找到我曾經寫給她的信, 裡面有我的一些文章,
先生讀了，很感動。其中一篇, 登載在2010年3月的明報：
A Taxi Driver's Story
Date: 19-3-10
In a short journey by taxi to Central, to my surprise, the taxi driver started a conversation with me that I can't forget – so much about his family. His story came to me as a complete revelation as it redefined happiness for modern people In the materialistic 21 century.
The driver is already over 70 years old. When he told me his age, I simply couldn't believe it. His voice was as young as that of a man in his 40s and his response to the traffic conditions was just perfect. He is But I guess he was in need of money for he was working at night, which was undoubtedly tough. However, I was soon to find out that the old man in front of me was not a poor retiree but a self-made millionaire. He used to be a sailor, a bus driver, a policeman and he already owned two flats in his twenties; now he is the owner of several flats rented out and a father with four children who are all independent with Shining careers in different fields.
Unfortunately, with whole-life struggling for wealth, working day and night to raise the four children, the old parents' return from some of their children was unbelievably cold. During this Chinese New Year, they didn't send any greeting words home, Let alone visit the two elderly parents or give them money regularly. Worse still, when this old driver was lying in a hospital due to an accident, his eldest daughter, who was working in the same hospital as a head nurse, didn't take I look at him. I was shocked. "Ask her to watch Echoes of the Rainbow?" I instantly thought of the hot movie and advised him. "No use, nothing works!" he was in dismay. I thought it was probably like An iceberg for a long time between the two generations. The iceberg has been like invisible needles torturing him all the time.
What's more, when the mother was suffering liver failure and desperately needing a donation from her daughter, see refused without a second thought. Fortunately his youngest son immediately came to the rescue by donating half of his liver to Mother. The driver was a bit relieved He was found to speak me that the youngest was also a brilliant IT man. He was so filial a son that he had given the old father a supplementary Visa card as soon as He got a job after graduation.
At this moment, he was tearing up, speechless. But soon, he cheered himself up by turning to another topic, which surprised me as much. I was astounded to know that he was good at gambling! No matter which type it was, Mark Six, Horse racing or the casino, he claimed he would win money if he did his homework. He seems to take his luck for granted. He considered driving a taxi as kind of killing time. Seemingly money was never an issue for him.
""What what, we have assigned all of our property to them equally no matter how they treat me and Mother. It’s as if we own them."
"What? Will you give your property to your unkind daughter?" I chased him up on this question eagerly. "Why not"? He said peacefully. Suddenly a flow of 'electric current' heated my body. From this great father, I Suddenly realized what unconditional love meant.
I was able to arrive. I wanted to give my best wishes to him when I said "Thank you" to him wholeheartedly. I got out of the car, but my inner conversation with him was still going on. I was in empathy with the Ihad a deep feeling that no matter how rich in wealth and strong in character, he was a sad man to some extent. But he seems to advise me to learn something from him: That's Life - don't be too serious about it, take it easy. Then you will be more sustainable and happier in your life journey.
That night, I felt laden with his mixed feelings and mine – Saddened by his story? Or relieved to see his strength despite something breaking his heart and alternating hurting him? ... A chain of questions twisted through my mind. But one thing is certain: As we are living in a world where it is a general belief that more money means more happiness, this real-life story reveals that true happiness is built out of a good understanding and a warm relationship within families.
A sense of enlightenment struck me – I am even more inclined to believe that family with love and understanding is the foundation of happiness.
I came to understand the old driver better suddenly: on one hand, the unwanted relationships with his children exasperate him; on the other hand, life has to go on. Being optimistic is always better than being pessimistic...
Yes, tomorrow is another day.
Best wishes, Mr. Driver.
Donna
先生讀了，很感動。其中一篇, 登載在2010年3月的明報：
A Taxi Driver's Story
Date: 19-3-10
In a short journey by taxi to Central, to my surprise, the taxi driver started a conversation with me that I can't forget – so much about his family. His story came to me as a complete revelation as it redefined happiness for modern people In the materialistic 21 century.
The driver is already over 70 years old. When he told me his age, I simply couldn't believe it. His voice was as young as that of a man in his 40s and his response to the traffic conditions was just perfect. He is But I guess he was in need of money for he was working at night, which was undoubtedly tough. However, I was soon to find out that the old man in front of me was not a poor retiree but a self-made millionaire. He used to be a sailor, a bus driver, a policeman and he already owned two flats in his twenties; now he is the owner of several flats rented out and a father with four children who are all independent with Shining careers in different fields.
Unfortunately, with whole-life struggling for wealth, working day and night to raise the four children, the old parents' return from some of their children was unbelievably cold. During this Chinese New Year, they didn't send any greeting words home, Let alone visit the two elderly parents or give them money regularly. Worse still, when this old driver was lying in a hospital due to an accident, his eldest daughter, who was working in the same hospital as a head nurse, didn't take I look at him. I was shocked. "Ask her to watch Echoes of the Rainbow?" I instantly thought of the hot movie and advised him. "No use, nothing works!" he was in dismay. I thought it was probably like An iceberg for a long time between the two generations. The iceberg has been like invisible needles torturing him all the time.
What's more, when the mother was suffering liver failure and desperately needing a donation from her daughter, see refused without a second thought. Fortunately his youngest son immediately came to the rescue by donating half of his liver to Mother. The driver was a bit relieved He was found to speak me that the youngest was also a brilliant IT man. He was so filial a son that he had given the old father a supplementary Visa card as soon as He got a job after graduation.
At this moment, he was tearing up, speechless. But soon, he cheered himself up by turning to another topic, which surprised me as much. I was astounded to know that he was good at gambling! No matter which type it was, Mark Six, Horse racing or the casino, he claimed he would win money if he did his homework. He seems to take his luck for granted. He considered driving a taxi as kind of killing time. Seemingly money was never an issue for him.
""What what, we have assigned all of our property to them equally no matter how they treat me and Mother. It’s as if we own them."
"What? Will you give your property to your unkind daughter?" I chased him up on this question eagerly. "Why not"? He said peacefully. Suddenly a flow of 'electric current' heated my body. From this great father, I Suddenly realized what unconditional love meant.
I was able to arrive. I wanted to give my best wishes to him when I said "Thank you" to him wholeheartedly. I got out of the car, but my inner conversation with him was still going on. I was in empathy with the Ihad a deep feeling that no matter how rich in wealth and strong in character, he was a sad man to some extent. But he seems to advise me to learn something from him: That's Life - don't be too serious about it, take it easy. Then you will be more sustainable and happier in your life journey.
That night, I felt laden with his mixed feelings and mine – Saddened by his story? Or relieved to see his strength despite something breaking his heart and alternating hurting him? ... A chain of questions twisted through my mind. But one thing is certain: As we are living in a world where it is a general belief that more money means more happiness, this real-life story reveals that true happiness is built out of a good understanding and a warm relationship within families.
A sense of enlightenment struck me – I am even more inclined to believe that family with love and understanding is the foundation of happiness.
I came to understand the old driver better suddenly: on one hand, the unwanted relationships with his children exasperate him; on the other hand, life has to go on. Being optimistic is always better than being pessimistic...
Yes, tomorrow is another day.
Best wishes, Mr. Driver.
Donna
今天读起来，再一次提醒我们
WHAT IS HAPPINESSS?
想起最近Kelvin談到哈佛大學的調查實驗，持續了70多年，人在不同年紀最關心，最重要的是什麼？
來到70多歲，人最關心的是和家人的連結。幸福是源於家人的愛和自己愛自己的能力。
越多連結，越多愛，人的心理健康些，壽命都長些！
WHAT IS HAPPINESSS?
想起最近Kelvin談到哈佛大學的調查實驗，持續了70多年，人在不同年紀最關心，最重要的是什麼？
來到70多歲，人最關心的是和家人的連結。幸福是源於家人的愛和自己愛自己的能力。
越多連結，越多愛，人的心理健康些，壽命都長些！
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