7 年前，我寫了一篇文章，是一位taxi driver 和我分享的故事，我坐的taxi，經過瑪麗醫院，我和他攀談，他哭了.... 他笑了....我被他的故事深深感動！
A Taxi driver's Story
Despite that you have everything, you still feel sad if you have no love from your family.
Despite that you have everything, you still feel sad if you have no love from your family.
This story shows why Family Love is soo crucial for happiness
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这正《讓愛在家庭流動》工作坊的理念之一
Date: 19-3-2010
In a short journey
by taxi to Central, to my surprise, the taxi driver started a conversation with
me that I can’t forget – so much about his family. His story came to me as a
complete revelation as it redefined happiness for modern people in the
materialistic 21 century.
The driver is
already over 70 years old. When he told me his age, I simply couldn’t believe
it. His voice was as young as that of a man in his 40s and his response to the
traffic conditions was just perfect. He is still agile both mentally and
physically. But I guess he was in need of money for he was working at
night, which was undoubtedly tough. However, I was soon to find out
that the old man in front of me was not a poor retiree but a self-made millionaire.
He used to be a sailor, a bus driver, a policeman and
he already owned two flats in his twenties; now he is the owner of
several flats rented out and a father with four children who are all
independent with shining careers in different fields.
Unfortunately, with
whole-life struggling for wealth, working day and night to raise the four
children, the old parents’ return from some of their children was unbelievably
cold. During this Chinese New Year, they didn’t send any greeting words
home, let alone visit the two elderly parents or give them money regularly.
Worse still, when this old driver was lying in a hospital due to an accident,
his eldest daughter, who was working in the same hospital as a head nurse,
didn’t take a look at him. I was shocked. “Ask her to watch Echoes of the
Rainbow?” I instantly thought of the hot movie and advised him. “No use,
nothing works!” he was in dismay. I thought it was probably like an iceberg for
a long time between the two generations. The iceberg has been like invisible
needles torturing him all the time.
What’s more, when
the mother was suffering liver failure and desperately needing a donation from
her daughter, she refused without a second thought. Fortunately his youngest
son immediately came to the rescue by donating half of his liver to Mother. The
driver was a bit relieved when talking about this son as if he was his
last comfort zone. He was proud to tell me that the youngest was also a
brilliant IT man. He was so filial a son that he had given the old father a
supplementary Visa card as soon as he got a job after graduation.
At this moment, he
was tearing up, speechless. But soon, he cheered himself up by turning to
another topic, which surprised me as much. I was astounded to know that he was
good at gambling! No matter which type it was, Mark Six, Horse racing or the
casino, he claimed he would win money if he did his homework. He seemed to
take his luck for granted. He considered driving a taxi as kind of killing
time. Seemingly money was never an issue for him.
Nevertheless, he
couldn’t help resigning to his ‘unreasoning’ fate – “so what, we have
assigned all of our property to them equally no matter how they treat me and
Mother. It’s as if we own them.”
“What? Will you give
your property to your unkind daughter?” I chased him up on this question
eagerly. “Why not”? He said peacefully. Suddenly a flow of 'electric
current' heated my body. From this great father, I suddenly realized what
unconditional love meant.
I was soon to
arrive. I wanted to give my best wishes to him when I said “Thank you” to
him wholeheartedly. I got out of the car, but my inner conversation with
him was still going on. I was in empathy with the tough man in facing the
broken relationship with his children. I had a deep feeling that no matter how
rich in wealth and strong in character, he was a sad man to some extent. But he
seemed to advise me to learn something from him: That’s life - don’t be too
serious about it, take it easy. Then you will be more sustainable and happier
in your life journey.
That night, I felt
laden with his mixed feelings and mine – Saddened by his story? Or
relieved to see his strength despite something breaking his heart and
constantly hurting him? … A chain of questions twisted through my mind. But one
thing is certain: as we are living in a world where it is a general belief that
more money means more happiness, this real-life story reveals that true
happiness is built out of a good understanding and a warm relationship
within families.
A sense of
enlightenment struck me – I am even more inclined to believe that family with
love and understanding is the foundation of happiness.
I came to understand
the old driver better suddenly: on one hand, the unwanted relationships with
his children exasperate him; on the other hand, life has to go on. Being
optimistic is always better than being pessimistic…
Yes, tomorrow is another day.
Best wishes, Mr. Driver.
Donna
这正是我们《讓愛在家庭流動》的理念之一
http://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2017/02/blog-post_6.html
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