Every behaviour has a positive intention -每個行為的背后,都有一個正面的動機
每次遇上困難,不知如何解決的問題,我就會溫習NLP,特別是NLP基石和信念- the presuppositions.带来启发和能量.
因為我相信, There are no unresourceful people, only unresourceful states.
Every behaviour has a positive intention.
No matter how strange, hurtful or inappropriate a person’s behaviour may seem to you; to the person engaging in that behaviour, it makes sense in their model of the world. They see the behaviour as the best or only way of meeting their need or achieving their outcome.
Similar ways to express this presupposition are:
- Everyone is doing the best they can with the resources available to them.
- Every behaviour is useful in some context.
- Everyone is always doing what they believe is right.
- This is the best choice available to a person given the circumstances as they see it.
The key is to appreciate the positive intention of the other person’s behaviour. This does not mean that you view the other person’s behaviour as positive. On the contrary, you may find it quite distasteful. You need to look behind their behaviour to notice their positive intention - for them, for you, for someone else, … . Once you have an understanding of their positive intention, explore alternative ways to help the person achieve it.http://www.renewal.ca/nlp6.htm
化解分歧, 最重要是去了解別人的需要和動機;或幫別人找到其它方法,更正面,積極,健康的方法去到達這個需要或消除負面的情緒,如恐懼. 也達到你的目的,可能是解決問題,增進關系.搞好工作.提高效率等.
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