Saturday, May 27, 2017

写在創夢者旅遊分享會前夕

我很喜歡分享,所以我的生命藍圖要我作工作坊!這一次是搞旅遊分享工作坊。

每一次都是新的嘗試,試自己很想嘗試的東西,挑戰自己做從沒有做的事情,沒有玩過的新元素。

我喜愛的敘事治療,今天與世界相遇!更重要的是和自己內在的世界相遇。



旅遊不僅可以減壓,放鬆,遊覽觀光那麼簡單,而且可以療愈身心,開闊心胸,從不同的角度,看到不一樣的世界,了解到一個不一樣的自己,發掘更多自我成長的可能性。



我很喜歡看見每個人都帶著自己的旅遊經歷,故事,輕鬆愉快的探索世界,探索自己。

黃錦敦老師說得好:“生命,才是最值得去的地方。”

“關於旅遊和心理治療,永遠是很個人的,重要的不是我們到過那個地方,而是我們的生命能否透過這樣的的移動面對讓我們更靠近自己想要的人生!”

他說出我的心底話!



27 5 2017


Thursday, May 25, 2017

這一天,我開始學習新的面對.....

父母已經八十有多。爸爸这幾個月常常出入醫院,醫生叫我們要有心理準備。媽媽身體也不好,身心疲累,我必須用多些時間,照顧爸爸,減輕媽媽的壓力,倍伴父母年邁,感到一种福氣,也是修炼!

昨天,我陪父母去做一件特別的事:搞遺囑。

看到爸爸帶著氧氣,拄著拐杖,一步一步緩慢的腳步的樣子,我心疼又感動,這位老教授,去年完成的對石油工業極大影響的第二本鉅作,大腦開始退化了. ...我看見面前健康上已經完全不同的父親,充滿思念,感慨和敬意。

當律師讀到Trustee時,我感到有一種泰山壓頂的感覺,好沉重,如果真是來到做Trustee的時刻,自己都不知怎麼面對,但見到每一個人都要經歷,覺得是時候學習接受生命的結束,一種必須的修煉,心理平靜很多。

這幾年,我做很多哀傷處理的個案,發現當人在世的時候有沒有為自己做好最后的,适合的安排,將長期影響後人的心理健康和壽命!律師告訴我們:大部分人都不知道遺囑非常非常重要,減少後人很多麻煩和二次心理創傷。

令後人可以最快時間走出悲傷和痛苦,活的健康 (心理和身體是互相影響的),父母想到了,做的很好。一份遺囑,盡顯他們的愛心,最後的心意。

父母的身教,他們對待死亡的積極正面的態度,一心為後代著想的精神,深深影響這我,為了家人著想,我也會盡快做這件事。

我覺得,做個負責任的人,做自己應該做的事,就可以心安理得,既然人是大自然的一部分,生生死死,大自然的規律,就接受它,人就会安心安顿很多。

死亡不過是一個過程,我們也可以令它幸福的結束!这也是選擇!


晚上,我陪爸爸做“功課”: 寫大字:

他的專注,令我驚訝,半個鐘頭,抄寫完一首唱詩詞:沁園春 - 雪,還讀給我聽呢:





妈妈高兴死了,爸爸原来还可以写怎么多字,不错漏,我们都未必做到




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很欣慰,媽媽可以開放的和我討論父母將來的葬禮安排,這又是另一件大事。

記得在DP的一個小組會上,我們興奮的設計自己的葬禮 - 這不是傳統的葬禮,我們有選擇。選擇將悲傷變成追思,懷念和倍伴的心靈聚會:成為心理滋潤和療愈。因為前人已去,rest in peace not only for the deceased ( 死者)but for the living people (在世的人們)to get out of grief and move forward. 那天晚上,走出街道,看到的世界,好像已經很不同,人都輕盈不少,這個情景,今天又在出現。

大家帶著感恩,一起來唱歌懷念和分享,猶如慶祝生命的繼續和重生。

自己的葬禮,自己設計,那就好了!這是我的夢想之一。

To die before die, life is very different and full of blessing! 



Then, we become more cherish, compassionate to life. 

Like Lousy Hay said:



很喜歡莊子的蝴蝶夢:夢教他如何看待生死!



"夢就是醒,醒就是夢,萬物始於一,復歸於一。所以莊與蝶、夢與覺相互轉化,彼此滲透,最後成為渾然一體".....

莊子在自己的妻子死後,不但不傷心落淚,卻還得意坐在地上鼓盆而歌的事實,後來還由此引出莊子一段精彩玄妙的生死談,大意是說:人生從無到有,從有到無,從生到死,從死到生的過程,就好比春夏秋冬,四時往復一樣,此刻,妻子已經回歸自然,正沉睡在天地的懷抱中,而我在一旁哇哇大哭,不但不明智也毫無必要,所以便為她鼓盆而歌。

拋開前世後世的因果關係,拋開一些頹廢的人生如夢的哀嘆,我最喜歡的還是莊子的蝴蝶夢,因為它給人一種不怕困難的樂觀的人生觀,不管人生遇到什麼樣的坎坷和挫折,不管生活經歷什麼樣的災難和凶險,我們也許會象莊子鼓盆而歌那樣,做一個美麗的蝴蝶夢,化成美麗的蝴蝶徜徉在姹紫嫣紅的花草叢中。http://big5.cri.cn/gate/big5/gb.cri.cn/3601/2004/08/15/342@266732.htm
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以下是這兩天一位生命教練,剛剛離開,我寫給她的信,她是一位癌症末期病人,但打破宿命,活多八年多,這些年,她不是坐在那裡等死,而是做大量的心理治療義務工作,发光发热,using self as a vehicle to lightening up people lives;同時也是和自己做治療。

心理治療,真的可以療愈身心,也是身體的治療。

Sally,你告訴我們,人在逆境中,
最重要的是要有夢想。
夢想可以幫助我們跨越死亡,活出熱情生..http://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2017/05/sally.html


很喜歡莊子的蝴蝶夢:http://www.donnadreamhypnosis.com/2017/05/blog-post_32.html
這一天,我開始學習新的面對.....
看到爸爸帶著氧氣,拄著拐杖,一步一步緩慢的腳步的樣子,我心疼又感動,這位老教授,去年完成的對石油工業極大影響的第二本鉅作,大腦開始退化了. ...我看見面前健康上已經完全不同的父親,充滿思念,感慨和敬意。


24 5 2017

Wednesday, May 24, 2017

為了登峰夢,曾燕紅老師可以去到多盡?



曾經嚴重受傷,差點沒命,辭下工作, 為了買裝備,身欠債款.....

曾燕紅鼓勵學生勇敢追夢,一四年首次挑戰珠峰,遇雪崩失敗。她翌年再出發,又遇上尼泊爾大地震,其頭部受創致記憶力衰退,五名隊友喪生,惟她誓要實現夢想。她第三次踏上征途,昨天終於完成壯舉。
「理想不是光想,是付出甚麼,追求甚麼……」

曾老師周日成功登上珠峰,並兌現七年前向學生許下的承諾,她說:「每一刻想起,現在說起都有些想哭的感覺。身為一名教師,向學生說的話都要做到,自己達到目標當刻都好感動,(因為)好驚愧疚學生。」


記得一位登珠峰犧牲的運動員在給家人和初生的孩子的信中說:
人最重要是有夢想,不論是大夢還是小夢,千萬不要沒有夢想!

剛剛看了她的電視訪問。深為曾老師追夢驚人毅力和passion感動,喝彩! !


24 5 2017

Sally, 你永遠和我們同行

Sally

你是一個不折不扣的夢想家!創夢者,你跨越了你的夢境,真正活出了夢想!我的榜樣!

雖然你已經飛向天國,但,每當我一個人靜下來的時候,你都出現,彷彿我們又回到那些一起的時光,特別是那幾個電話中……再看看到我們的Whatsapp對話.....

第一次開始真正理解你,是我參加傳心行動課程。我被你和夥伴們的熱情所打動。在你的guidance下,我們通過寫信,療愈自己的內在小孩。我第一次寫信給撫養我長大的婆婆,還有日夜相對的丈夫,第一次療愈自己的童年陰影,學習做自己的內在父母。

然後,我問你,可以聽聽你寫的信嗎?對你的生命一定很重要!你不加思索答應我。

當時,你還參加華人行動,追隨劉老師上大陸。回來後,你打電話給我,你將寫給你爸爸的信一字不漏的,娓娓道來,字裡行間充滿著痛和愛,你和父親當年的的關係,非常艱難。重男輕女的傳統觀念,壓的你透不過氣來,留下深深的imprint和創傷。但你通過寬恕原諒,安撫你內在的小孩,感受她的痛,也感受父親的處境,改寫的你的信念,從此,生命中充滿感恩和滿足,面對生死,面對生命上那麼大的挑戰, 仍默默的发光发热,听不到半点怨言和痛苦!

你還是我最早期夢境療愈工作坊的支持者,那天晚上,在DP的第二次工作坊,我興奮的看見你坐在後面,靜靜的聆聽,後來你開心的發現你明白了你的夢境和啟示,分享給大家!你更加感到潛意識的力量不可忽視,給我很大的溫暖和動力。後來,我打電話給你,問下你的整體feedback,你給我更多的鼓勵。

然後,你繼續參加我的解夢工作坊,因為有些夢境很想搞清楚,於是,我和你一起找了個時間做解夢學習,因為我被你起而不捨的探索內在,療愈自己的決心所感動!


你的“飛翔夢”可以所是你在DP開始做“傳心行動”的強心針,如何面對疾病的恐懼,同時又想活出夢想的矛盾;你的夢境,由開始的猶豫,傍徨,擔心,到一飛沖天,再飛回到大地,面對不熟悉的人們看著你,你開始有些不安,但你馬上心中有一股力量- 有一種totally focus out的感覺..... ..你的心開始安頓,平靜,欣慰和放鬆......

這次夢境治療,我也分享自己類似的夢境,你的聯想力驚人,很快可以和自己的夢境和現實情況聯繫起來,大家都從中學習到夢境潛意識的大愛,是要我們好好和內在的自己活在一起,感受身體的感受,在追求夢想的同時,如何不要忘記照顧自己的身體平衡,心理平衡。

然後你告訴我,你會好好思考,看看如何可以活的更加平衡,同時追求更適合自己的愛好,去平靜自己的身心。

其實,你說出了我的心底話,我何況不是在思考這個問題!

我將你的梦境的insights 和我的感受寫給你,大家的连接和了解又加深一步。

你讓我更相信,你的夢就是我的夢,夢境治療,就是陪伴,同行,一起成長。

你讓我們看到:有夢想的人是如何可以跨越死亡的宿命,活出熱情的人生

你給我的支持 ,支持我搞夢境探索,我會永遠記住。

今天,你雖然身體走了,

但你的精神永遠活在我們心中。

重讀你的文章,彷彿你一直在我們身邊,溫柔,靜靜的陪伴,同行,你永遠活在我們心中!


我會記住你的話:

“感謝上天讓我的生命被使用,給世界帶來更多光和熱 。”


Miss you Sally, we had course together last October
                                                       
你的溫暖和慈悲,你和癌症同行,和疾病做朋友的積極的人生觀,你用行動打破醫生的宿命,活出燦爛的人生的事蹟,將永遠和我在一起,和我們同行!







24 5 2017






Tuesday, May 23, 2017

How hypnosis works (2)


 


I am in a new intensive hypnosis course.



I just record a pre-hypnosis talk and Relaxation hypnosis (later part) - so as to make hypnosis (also called self hypnosis or meditation) more effective and get the max. benefit from it.


This hypnosis course I am in gives me a sense of a sublimation of  Dreams Possible course and all self-development courses I have taken in the past years. Subconscious mind need endless repetitive positive messages to instill a new belief and new value system or new habit. Hypnosis can help us to speed the process and let's grow more solid and faster.



Here is a quite comprehensive explanation about functions of hypnosis:


There is a paragraph in the link explaining the wonder I experienced in the last section, in which, I hoped hypnosis could cured my split headache and flu symptom and it DID worked instantly. I was in a demonstration at that moment, the hypnotherapist induced me into a short but deep relaxation state. After that, my headache and sneeze drift away.

进入催眠状态后,催眠师和受术者之间特殊的单线联系,会使得受术者在生理功能和心理感受上发生积极的变化。脑内乙酰胆碱(分泌越多活动越浅缓)、多巴胺(分泌越多越振奋)、疲劳素等分泌改变,影响交感、副交感神经的平衡,从而提高人的身体器官的功能;同时受术者对催眠师的指令愿意接受而且能够合作,在催眠师的帮助下改善情绪,调节压力,解开心结,开发潜能。这就是为什么催眠术能够起到调节身心作用的原因。

That is why I would like to share my learning and joy on learning and practicing hypnosis with you as everyone's subconscious mind is an ocean of wisdom on protection of our body...


催眠也是自然療法一種。疾病是潜意識透過身體發放的訊號。身體每一個细胞都會對我们思想,每句話作出反應。正面思维,時常聆听身體的訊息,是促進身心健康的要訣。祝健身





Monday, May 22, 2017

陪伴和活出最真實的自己

很喜歡上的Huck課!不論是在台灣還是在香港。他是一位可以一邊開演唱會,一邊解夢,一邊分享生命故事,一邊幽默講笑,一邊做生涯規劃的天才,鬼才導師!那種與大家同哭同笑,安靜溫柔的陪伴,那種深刻的連接和理解,那種耐心,真誠,謙卑和無比的自信,每次都給我留下深刻印象!
Huck 独门心法工作坊, 做罐头还是做自己?

老師做示範的時候說話不多,但每句都扣人心弦,鑽人熱淚:

生命導師的使命,是讀懂一個人,點亮一個人的生命,using self as a vehicle !


這個工作坊,給我很大的啟發:


生涯規劃重要的地方不是資源,不是skill,不是將來,而是回到當下,回到最真實的自己,找到渴望,思念,找到自己念念不忘,依依不捨的是什麼。


最真實的能力,是如何啟動潛能,將渴望,夢想變成現實!

因為我們從來不缺乏資源!

聽到不少社工朋友分享說,自己都有很多創傷,卻要帶著面具去輔導別人,感覺很吃力,很累。


但工作坊後,大家發現

All coaching is self-coaching,
all healing is self healing.
Then we will not have pressure but with relaxation joy and gratitude.
Our mission is to find the beauty of others,
to empower others,
and meanwhile to empower ourselves。

通過真誠的陪伴和理解,產生心靈的連接;

通過powerful 問句,帶出一個個獨特的生命故事;
故事中長出真實,而真實,是療癒的基礎!

Huck,你令我找到自己的方向和使命:

那就是安靜溫柔的陪伴,
與人產生深刻的連接和理解,
耐心,真誠,謙卑的態度!
從中找到一片富足,平靜和幸福的天地!


感恩夥伴們給我的回饋,評價和支持!這是我的寫照,我很喜歡這樣的自己!

陪伴,分享和支持,我的两个社工朋友,在情绪管理的最前线

你們幫我找到生命的鑽石

從說故事開始,讓內在的自己出來暢談一下讓別人讀懂你,和你一起探索,找到渴望和真情



問:做什麼事情,我覺得時間總是不夠用?
答: 當我寫作時,當我發夢時,當我和個案傾談時,當我搞工作坊時,尤其是大家分享的時候,這些時候,我想要很細膩的體驗,去感覺,很享受過程,很喜歡自我探索和學習的過程,和別人互動交流的過程,所以時間總是不夠用。

如果今晚我可以設計我自己的夢境,我想和父母一起去做一次很長的旅行,還爸爸的心願,那怕是去俄羅斯,西伯利亞的冰湖。因為爸爸已經不能去旅行了,渴望夢中可以實現他的夢想。

我最拿手的是.......寫BLOG,一種很自由,舒暢的寫作,是我的自我催眠,冥想的时间,当我自我放鬆,就可以高度專注的回到心中的天堂小屋,自我反思,自我強化,自我滋潤和療癒,Blogging,一種內心的表達和整合,一種愛的交流,和大家分享的媒介。

另一個是解夢,和內在的自己在一起,和別人產生深刻的連接!我真的好感恩上天給我這種喜歡讀懂一個人的passion和compassion,是一種天賦。因為我好感恩自己的潛意識,往往在面對困難,在身體有症狀時,在與別人有不同意見的時候,我的夢境潛意識,我的內在智慧大師,我的"神",就會導演一個個震撼的電影,提醒我看到自己看不到的灰暗地帶,自己不敢面對,忽略的地帶!其實,我們每一個人都是自己的神,提醒我們勇敢面對,跳出自己的陷進,超越自己!


這兩個問句,令我想起這幾年的一直支持我的夢境探索工作的家人,我的孩子,我的好朋友,好夥伴,Pheabe 和Jenny,我的夢境團隊,Elaine, CK, Bessie, Fiona,Clement, Happy, 等等。他們對我的信任和無限量的支持,令我有力量繼續向前!還有我的教練 華山Red, Johnathan 和 Dreams Possible 老師們。心靈路上,從來沒有孤獨感,因為我們的夢想緊緊聯繫在一起了!

盡在不言中!I dedicated  the above sharing to you all.


疲倦的時候,我渴望自己內在的父母可以照顧自己的內在孩子,這是我自己和自己的相處時候,可以好好休息,聆聽到自己的聲音。

我很喜歡和別人分享故事,也渴望聆聽別人的故事。
所以,每每生命中有什麼令我觸動,都會馬上分享出來,
生命,每一天都可以是celebration!



選了下面这张卡做自己的check in - EXPRESSION of self present status
 因為爸爸的身體日趨變壞,心中很強的不捨,
每一天都變得很珍貴,很懷念。
當我走去選卡時候,這張就在我的面前,好像在默默的等著我,
我講著自己的心情時,突然哽咽,淚水直下,
我突然意識到,原來,愛,真的要表達,
Father, I Love You!
陪伴,珍惜,讓不捨的心,變成愛的行動。



從Huck身上,我感到:
助人工作者最重要的不是有多少skills,
而是有多少愛心,耐心和慈悲!
是一颗陪伴,同行和修行的心!




Huck的最後幾句話一直在我腦海中迴盪:

在我心中
沒有inner child,我只有Happy child
這麼多年,我學習好好照顧自己的wound child
我讓我的wound child好好休息
我讓我的happy child出來,和我手牽手,
很好的活出自己。
我還有一個滋潤的內在父母。
其實,人有很多parts,
你自己決定你的組合,你想成為什麼樣的自己
如果你可以好好照顧自己的wound child
你就有資格決定你的組合,
讓這些部分真實的活出來!





今天,我們通過故事,探索,发现和展現了自己內在的特質,

a sense of self empowerment filled in our heart.

思考着如何陪伴和活出最真實的自己......

最后,再来一次大合唱:爱的代价,从中成长

張艾嘉 


愛的代價


作詞:李宗盛
作曲:李宗盛
編曲:李正帆

還記得年少時的夢嗎 像朵永遠不凋零的花
陪我經過那風吹雨打 看世事無常 看滄桑變化
那些為愛所付出的代價 是永遠都難忘的啊
所有真心的 癡心的話 永在我心中雖然已沒有他

走吧 走吧 人總要學著自己長大
更多更詳盡歌詞 在 ※ Mojim.com 魔鏡歌詞網 
走吧 走吧 人生難免經歷苦痛掙
走吧 走吧 為自己的心找一個家
也曾傷心流淚 也曾黯然心碎 這是愛的代價

也許我偶爾還是會想他 偶爾難免會惦記著他
就當他是個老朋友啊 也讓我心疼 也讓我牽掛
只是我心中不再有火花 讓往事都隨風去吧
所有真心的 癡心的話 仍在我心中雖然已沒有他






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22 5 2017

Saturday, May 20, 2017

夢境 - 建築一條通往天堂的康莊大道( 1)

一連串的現今家庭的生活,加上震撼的潛意識夢境故事,
構成 天堂小屋 THE SHACK
Tearful novel and movie!


有人說,夢是假的,癡人說夢,不值一提,不屑一顧。

有人說,夢不是假,而是太真,真實的太可怕,最好是不記得,更加不要說是解析、虛心學習自己的潛意識 - 夢境背後的真相!

不論是真還是假,不論是記得還是忘記它,我們的潛意識就是那麼弔詭,你越不想听,不想看,不想理,它就偏偏要你去看,去聽,它的“永不放棄的精神“,可以搞得人日夜顛倒,
噩夢連連,睡眠失調,於是,什麼夢也發不出了,反而在光天化日下,人的思維開始混亂,出現幻覺,那真是睡不醒了!思覺失調,精神出現症狀!

一旦我們去聽聽,去理解自己的潛意識信息,感受夢境的力量,這就是The Shack <天堂小屋>的奇蹟:

Based on the New York Times best-selling novel, The Shack takes us on a father's uplifting spiritual journey. After suffering a family tragedy, Mack Phillips spirals into a deep depression causing him to question his innermost beliefs. Facing a crisis of faith, he receives a mysterious letter urging him to an abandoned shack deep in the Oregon wilderness. Despite his doubts, Mack journeys to the shack and encounters an enigmatic trio of strangers led by a woman named Papa [Octavia Spencer]. Through this meeting, Mack finds important truths that will transform his understanding of his tragedy and change his life forever.
https://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/the_shack/


The Shack, 天堂小屋,描寫憂鬱症,如何通過夢境力量,和內在連接,真正寬恕原諒,療癒了自己,提醒我們對夢境的關注!夢境,潛意識的代言人,我們的內在高人!

“天堂小屋”電影告訴我們,清醒的自己往往是處於混沌狀態,或是”發夢“!睡覺發夢的時候,人才真正覺醒:自己在做什麼,真正想要什麼,渴望什麼。那種及不可待擺脫壓抑的狀態,渴望改變的心情,再明顯不過了!解決問題的方向和方法就在夢中出現了!

正如周兆祥博士所說:



精神科醫生,心理學家也在呼籲人們關注自己的夢境。不要等到睡眠失調,夢境失調、甚至思覺失調才來看醫生,我們每個人都是自己的最好的精神科醫生,如果我們對自己的精神健康留意多一些。电影是最好的提示:千萬不要小看自己的夢境啊! A self healing process if we can read out dream insight with positive psychology.

相信看完電影,大部分人都被故事所感動,一場夢後,是假是真已經不重要,重要的是我們每個人都有電影主角的一部分,也有上帝,PAPA的一部分,每個人都可以 用自我反思的力量,找回真正的自己,通過正向的自我催眠,夢境的真諦,療愈自己的心理,洗滌自己的心靈。夢境 - 打通潛意識,幫助我們建築一條通往天堂的康莊大道!

我們的夢,我們的力量!天堂小屋,激發我更加熱愛夢境治療。

Our Dreams, our power!

Where is the God? Where is the Heaven? When we lose in dark, when we lost in ourselves, our inner power, our SUBCONSCIOUSNESS, DREAMS always come to rescue. Then we discover God, Heaven, Happiness have never left us. They are always in our HEART only if we have Love in ourselves, Gratitude to everything, everyone in our life.

天堂小屋”電影彷彿告訴我們,清醒的自己往往是處於混沌狀態,或是”發夢“!
睡覺發夢的時候,人才真正覺醒:自己在做什麼,真正想要什麼,渴望什麼。那種及不可待擺脫壓抑的狀態,渴望改變的心情,再明顯不過了!解決問題的方向和方法就在夢中出現了!

天堂小屋”電影告訴我們,清醒的自己往往是處於混沌狀態,或是”發夢“!發夢的時候,人才真正覺醒:自己在做什麼,真正想要什麼,渴望什麼。那種及不可待擺脫壓抑的狀態,渴望改變的心情,再明顯不過了!解決問題的方向和方法就在夢中出現了

上帝在哪裡?天堂在哪裡?
當我們在黑暗中失去了自己,
我們內心的力量,潜意识,夢境,
總是來拯救我們。
然後我們發現:上帝,天堂,幸福,從未沒有離開過我們。只要真正愛自己,感謝生命中的每一個成長機會,上帝,天堂,幸福,永遠在我們的心中。
The Shack, 天堂小屋,描寫憂鬱症,如何通過夢境力量,和內在連接,真正寬恕原諒,療癒了自己,提醒我們對夢境的關注!夢境,潛意識的代言人,我們的內在高人!千萬不要不理自己的夢境啊!

昨晚看The Shack, 天堂小屋,療癒的淚水忍不住的流,但這一晚,我睡得特別好,內在好像多了一份力量和溫暖。
“Don't ever discount the wonder of your tears. They can be healing waters and a stream of joy. Sometimes they are the best words the heart can speak.”
― William Paul Young, The Shack

https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/2666268-the-shack-where-tragedy-confronts-eternity

The ShackThe Shack by William Paul Young
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“Forgiveness is not about forgetting. It is about letting go of another person's throat......Forgiveness does not create a relationship. Unless people speak the truth about what they have done and change their mind and behavior, a relationship of trust is not possible. When you forgive someone you certainly release them from judgment, but without true change, no real relationship can be established.........Forgiveness in no way requires that you trust the one you forgive. But should they finally confess and repent, you will discover a miracle in your own heart that allows you to reach out and begin to build between you a bridge of reconciliation.........Forgiveness does not excuse anything.........You may have to declare your forgiveness a hundred times the first day and the second day, but the third day will be less and each day after, until one day you will realize that you have forgiven completely. And then one day you will pray for his wholeness......”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
“Each relationship between two persons is absolutely unique. That is why you cannot love two people the same. It simply is not possible. You love each person differently because of who they are and the uniqueness that they draw out of you.”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
tags: love
“Don't ever discount the wonder of your tears. They can be healing waters and a stream of joy. Sometimes they are the best words the heart can speak.”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
“I suppose that since most of our hurts come through relationships so will our healing, and I know that grace rarely makes sense for those looking in from the outside.”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
“Submission is not about authority and it is not obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
“Forgiveness in no way requires that you trust the one you forgive.”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
“...if anything matters then everything matters. Because you are important, everything you do is important. Every time you forgive, the universe changes; every time you reach out and touch a heart or a life, the world changes; with every kindness and service, seen or unseen, my purposes are accomplished and nothing will be the same again.”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
“All I want from you is to trust me with what little you can, and grow in loving people around you with the same love I share with you. It's not your job to change them, or to convince them. You are free to love without an agenda.”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
“Forgiveness is not about forgetting. It is about letting go of another person's throat.”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
“Pain has a way of clipping our wings and keeping us from being able to fly.”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
“Just because I work incredible good out of unspeakable tragedies doesn't mean I orchestrate the tragedies. Don't ever assume that my using something means I caused it or that I need it to accomplish my purposes. That will only lead you to false notions about me. Grace doesn't depend on suffering to exist, but where there is suffering you will find grace in many facets and colors.”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
“I don't need to punish people for sin. Sin is its own punishment, devouring you from the inside. It's not my purpose to punish it; it's my joy to cure it.”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
“So many believe that it is love that grows, but it is the knowing that grows and love simply expands to contain it.”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
“Life takes a bit of time and a lot of relationship.”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
“Sometimes honesty can be incredibly messy”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
“Jesus?" he whispered as his voice choked "I feel so lost"

A hand reached out and squeezed his, and didn't let go. "I know Mack. But it's not true. I am with you and I'm not lost. I'm sorry it feels that way, but hear me clearly. You are not lost.”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
“Remember, the people who know me are the ones who are free to live and love without any agenda."

Is that what it means to be a Christian?" It sounded kind of stupid as Mack said it, but it was how he was trying to sum everything up in his mind.

Who said anything about being a Christian? I'm not a Christian."

The idea struck Mack as odd and unexpected and he couldn't keep himself from grinning. "No, I suppose you aren't."

They arrived at the door of the workshop. Again Jesus stopped. "Those who love me come from every system that exists. They were Buddhists or Mormons, Baptists or Muslim, Democrats, Republicans, and many who don't vote or are not part of any Sunday morning religious institutions. I have followers who were murderers and many who were self-righteous. Some were bankers and bookies, Americans and Iraquis, Jews and Palistinians. I have no desire to make them Christian, but I do want to join them in their transformation into sons and daughters of my Papa, into my brothers and sisters, into my Beloved."

Does that mean," asked Mack, "that all roads will lead to you?"

Not at all," smiled Jesus as he reached for the door handle to the shop. "Most roads don't lead anywhere. What it does mean is that I will travel any road to find you.”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
“True love never forces.”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
“You can kiss your family and friends good-bye and put miles between you, but a the same time you carry them with you in your heart, your mind your stomach, because you do not just live in a world but a world lives in you.”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
“You... were created to be loved. So for you to live as if you were unloved is a limitation, not the other way around... Living unloved is like clipping a bird's wing and removing its ability to fly... A bird is not defined by being grounded but by his ability to fly. Remember this, humans are defined not by their limitations, but by the intentions I have for them; not by what they seem to be, but by everything it means to be created in my image. Love is NOT the limitation; love is the flying. I AM love. ”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
“Grace doesn't depend on suffering to exist, but where there is suffering you will find grace in many facets and colors.”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
tags: gracelifelove
“I don't just want a piece of you and a piece of your life. Even if you were able, which you are not, to give me the biggest piece, that is not what I want. I want all of you and all of every part of you and your day.”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
“Relationships are never about power, and one way to avoid the will to power is to choose to limit oneself- to serve.”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
“Anger is the right response to something that is so wrong. But don't let the anger and pain and loss you feel prevent you from forgiving him and removing your hands from around his neck.”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
“Did I hear God call me an idiot? ”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
tags: godhumoridiot
“Love is not the limitation; love is the flying.”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
tags: love
“So no, I’m not too big on religion...and not very fond of politics or economics either...And why should I be? They are the man-created trinity of terrors that ravages the earth and deceives those I care about. What mental turmoil and anxiety does any human face that is not related to one of those three?”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
“If a rainbow makes a sound, or a flower as it grows, that was the sound of her laughter.”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
“It (trying to keep the law) grants you the power to judge others and feel superior to them. You believe you are living to a higher standard than those you judge. Enforcing rules, especially in its more subtle expressions like responsibility and expectation, is a vain attempt to create certainly out of uncertainty. And contrary to what you might think, I have a great fondness for uncertainty. Rules cannot bring freedom; they only have the power to accuse. ”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
“You cannot produce trust just like you cannot 'do' humility. It either is or is not.”
― William Paul YoungThe Shack
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