問問題比答案更重要

Reflection about the Certificate in Practical Debriefing Skills Training Course section 1

YY Sir asked us, what is your purposes to come here to study Debriefing Coaching Skills?

I said: to learn how to run interactive games and to explore the insights from each games, to improve my course and workshop efficiency and effectiveness.

But when the class goes into the details, I suddenly realised it is not just to lean something to help people but to help me myself to have a bigger self development!

在解夢過程中，我們會用大量的問題啟動潛意識的反思，覺察和改變的力量，今天的coaching course，我發現我更需要學的是如何更謙卑，ATTITUDE is Everything! 像大師SOCRATATE 學習。掏空自己，以個案為本！

我將虛心地學習更有效的問句和輔導的方法，將自己放到一邊，將coachee，當事人放在中心·位置, 相信每一個人都有能力解決自己的問題，這需要學習如何問問題！有效的問題比答案更重要，如果答案是當事人自己答出來的，那麼這個問句的重要性可見而知！

記住：今天我來學習的目的是不直接給答案，不給advice，學習問問題！

作為一個facilitator，我們的工作和態度正如老師給我們的指南：

課程中，老師分享了令他最難忘的debriefing experience， 就是帶一班高才生參觀醫院的停屍間。這班學生從嚇的半死到分享的時候，被自己的反思感動到哭！想到親人離開，或與死亡那麼接近，想到很多很多，一次深刻的生命教育！這就是debriefing的power！

我們每個人都感到非常震撼！ debriefing 就是反思，啟迪和轉化的過程！

在討論的過程中，我們分享自己喜歡的性格和不喜歡的性格，一個做發問者，我感到發問者就是給別人empowerment，讓別人從自己的故事中得到inspiration， 同時也帶來反思，也給發問者帶來啟發和學習！我的partner是一位師範大學生，她說她不懂發問，但我講我的creative experience,我發現她很會發問，因為我相信令她放鬆，她就可以做回自己，她于是很轻松和有深度地对我的工作做一次探索！

我也用同樣方法，讓她發揮自己講故事的能力，從中她對自己的認識加深，而且我不斷鼓勵和讚美，問的越詳細和深入，越表现我對她的話題的興趣，我說，“我从你的故事中学到东西，你發揮的很好！你可以是一個很好的老師呀！”

在何為幸福的討論中，我發現每個人的幸福要求可能有所不同，沒有對與錯，但問他們一些例子時，聽多一些時，會發現一些信念和價值觀的盲點，這是，我們就可以通過問問題，由自己的答案中找到問題，解決問題！ Socratic questioning seeks to get the other person to answer their own questions by making them think and drawing out the answer from them.

he overall purpose of Socratic questioning, is to challenge accuracy and completeness of thinking in a way that acts to move people towards their ultimate goal.

剛上完 YY Sir， 一位資深的社工和培訓師的陰影心理輔導學，馬上又上他的如何有效提問的課程！Certificate in Practical Debriefing Skills Training Course。

在我的工作中，我發現我其實是一個facilitator，主人是個案，我只是在協助主人通過問句，探索性的討論和情感交流，分享式的傾談，啟動潛意識的反思，覺察和改變的力量，而自己也是受益者！

老師問我們為什麼要來學習，我說我是為了找到更多的靈感，互動的方法，提問的技巧，應用在工作中。

但上了第一課，我感受到這個課程首先是來學習問自己，探索自己，繼續清除盲點！學習如何謙卑的放下自己。虛心地學習大師各種輔導提问的方法，學習更加相信和充分發揮當事人潛能，提升激勵別人的能力！

有效的問題比答案更重要，如果答案是當事人自己答出來的，那麼這個問句的重要性可見而知！

記住：今天我來學習的目的是不直接給答案，不給advice，學習問問題！

所以, 首先，我要學習問自己問題，自問自答，然後用在日常生活中，如何將一個話題深入的講下去，讓自己和別人都得到深刻的反思和提升!

有效的提问：啟動潛意識的反思，覺察和改變的力量

很有趣，课程充滿創意，带来各种可能性！

Reference:

The Ideas of Socrates

http://changingminds.org/techniques/questioning/socratic_questions.htm

Conceptual clarification questions Get them to think more about what exactly they are asking or thinking about. Prove the concepts behind their argument. Use basic 'tell me more' questions that get them to go deeper. Why are you saying that? What exactly does this mean? How does this relate to what we have been talking about? What is the nature of ...? What do we already know about this? Can you give me an example? Are you saying ... or ... ? Can you rephrase that, please? Probing assumptions Probing their assumptions makes them think about the presuppositions and unquestioned beliefs on which they are founding their argument. This is shaking the bedrock and should get them really going! What else could we assume? You seem to be assuming ... ? How did you choose those assumptions? Please explain why/how ... ? How can you verify or disprove that assumption? What would happen if ... ? Do you agree or disagree with ... ? Probing rationale, reasons and evidence When they give a rationale for their arguments, dig into that reasoning rather than assuming it is a given. People often use un-thought-through or weakly-understood supports for their arguments. Why is that happening? How do you know this? Show me ... ? Can you give me an example of that? What do you think causes ... ? What is the nature of this? Are these reasons good enough? Would it stand up in court? How might it be refuted? How can I be sure of what you are saying? Why is ... happening? Why? (keep asking it -- you'll never get past a few times) What evidence is there to support what you are saying? On what authority are you basing your argument? Questioning viewpoints and perspectives Most arguments are given from a particular position. So attack the position. Show that there are other, equally valid, viewpoints. Another way of looking at this is ..., does this seem reasonable? What alternative ways of looking at this are there? Why it is ... necessary? Who benefits from this? What is the difference between... and...? Why is it better than ...? What are the strengths and weaknesses of...? How are ... and ... similar? What would ... say about it? What if you compared ... and ... ? How could you look another way at this? Probe implications and consequences The argument that they give may have logical implications that can be forecast. Do these make sense? Are they desirable? Then what would happen? What are the consequences of that assumption? How could ... be used to ... ? What are the implications of ... ? How does ... affect ... ? How does ... fit with what we learned before? Why is ... important? What is the best ... ? Why? Questions about the question And you can also get reflexive about the whole thing, turning the question in on itself. Use their attack against themselves. Bounce the ball back into their court, etc. What was the point of asking that question? Why do you think I asked this question? Am I making sense? Why not? What else might I ask? What does that mean?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QfzmpUoOud4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uvY3VWe4O4k

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c1mEVA1QQFg

http://www.umich.edu/~elements/5e/probsolv/strategy/cthinking.htm

12 8 2016

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